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sooo i dont know how to say it it was first date of new year in out culture .........A female friend ( i only see her as a friend ) i told her if she hang out to knock or call me ... she said to go out with boyss... now i dont have much friend she knows it ..i dont have any good friend only friends in name only she knows it .. she still said itt ..thennn shee asked in afternoon where i am ..i said i am in my roomm .... she said why didint i tell u go out wiht the boys ( boys in our class ) i said they wont go out .. she said she is out with girls they called two of the boys contact them .. i said i wont contact them and ask if i can join them it feels weird after they said nooo .........i asked if i come ... i went straight to her she was with 4 girlss after a while i found some friend i went withh themmm (boys)) nexttt i see those girls were hanging out with 1 boy now htey dont have a rpbolem thath he is one boy among 4 girlss it only problem when itss mee ...........so i didnt go there they told me to go with others a while ago so i felt weird some of the guys i was hanging with wnet to them and said i was there so the girls group called . i went the boy asked why was i alone i said they told me to go waway and they called youu ... then i asked after my friend offer me a momo . i ate then asked if i should go or leave..........now she is mad whyy i said it lollll i didint argue but she always say not to come alone in groups of girls and when anyone else beside me only 1 boy they dont have aproblem amybe i am not in their frriend cirlceee
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Man, that's really messed up 😒. Seems like they're giving you mixed signals and not treating you fairly compared to others. It's frustrating when so-called "friends" don't include you properly. Why do you think she's acting all mad at you for just stating facts? If they keep excluding you, maybe it's time to find some new peeps who appreciate having you around!
I totally get how confusing and frustrating that situation must have been. It does sound like a mixed bag of signals. Maybe your friend just doesn't realize how her words are affecting you; I remember once feeling left out because plans were made without me, but talking it out cleared things up. Have you thought about having an honest convo with her about how you're feeling? Seems like communication might help smooth things over…
i always try too but she argues blame m always it turns into a fight i am tired this was just one of many stories
It sounds like a really tough situation you're in. It's hard when you feel like the odd one out, especially when it seems like others are being treated differently. Maybe your friend isn't completely aware that her actions are making you feel excluded. Have you thought about taking a step back and observing how they treat other friends in different situations? It might help to gain a clearer picture before deciding on your next move.
i did i also told her she treats me differently but she says she doesnt like comparing between friends treats everyone equal ... she never understands me
It seems like you've encountered quite a dilemma here!! It's puzzling how your friend seemed to have different expectations or rules when it comes to you joining the group compared to others? This apparent inconsistency in social dynamics could be related to group psychology, where certain individuals are more easily integrated due to pre-existing social bonds; It's unfortunate that this has caused you discomfort and made you feel excluded. While it's essential to respect personal boundaries, it might be worth reflecting on whether there is an underlying reason for her reaction...social misunderstandings can often result from miscommunication! Perhaps having a candid conversation with your friend could provide some clarity;
i always try too but she argues blame m always it turns into a fight i am tired this was just one of many stories
that's a tough situation, man. it's frustrating when it feels like there are double standards at play. sometimes people can be weird about group dynamics without even realizing it. i remember feeling kind of left out in my friend group once, and it took me ages to figure out that they just assumed i wasn't into their plans. maybe next time you could try talking to your friend about how you're feeling? being honest might help clear things up and avoid confusion in the future.
i always try too but she argues blame m always it turns into a fight i am tired this was just one of many stories
It's kinda messed up that they had different rules for you, right?!
you know, from the details you’ve shared, it kind of sounds like a classic case of social dynamics at play here 🤔. sometimes people find themselves stuck in these implicit 'group-think' situations where they unconsciously stick to certain norms or behaviors: like how your friend seems more comfortable including others but not you; maybe it's not always intentional. i get that it can be quite disheartening being left out, especially when you're making an effort to bridge that gap! if anything, try thinking of it as an opportunity to foster relationships with those who truly value your company rather than questioning their seemingly erratic behavior; dr. seuss once said, "those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." so maybe reflect on what truly matters for you in friendships as well?
It's like they're playing by different rules for you, which doesn't sit right; reminds me of a time when I felt like the odd one out too, and it made me question if I was really valued in that group.
sounds like you're in a tricky spot. reminds me of when i was back in school and felt stuck between different friend groups too, like being in limbo or something. it's tough trying to navigate those dynamics, especially when it feels like people play by different rules. maybe your friend doesn't realize how her actions come across as exclusionary? sometimes bringing up these things can lead to better understanding, even if it's awkward at first. ever thought about just being upfront and asking why things felt off that day? might clear the air a bit.
yo, dude, sounds like you're caught in a tricky spot with those friends 😅. ever thought maybe it ain't about you being the lone guy but more about group dynamics? sometimes people get weird when mixing friend circles; it's seriously annoying though. not sure why she's pissed at you for just voicing how it made you feel - might be worth figuring out if there's an underlying thing bugging her or just letting it slide and see how things pan out next time 🤔;
bro, i feel you and it sounds like you're getting the short end of the stick here 🤨; maybe she's just stringing you along for kicks 'cause she knows you ain't got many friends.
The situation you're describing reeks of implicit bias, where your presence disrupts the established equilibrium of the group; have you considered that their discomfort might stem from preconceived notions about social dynamics rather than a personal grievance against you?
can u simple it down a bit i am weak at english
Oups, sorry! They may not hate you personally. They might just feel uncomfortable because they already have certain ideas in their head, and you being there changes the group dynamic!
honestly, this seems like one of those situations where social dynamics are just being plain awkward 😅; it reminds me of the time i went out with my coworkers and felt like the odd wheel because everyone else seemed to have their own inside jokes. maybe your friend doesn't realize how her actions come across? sometimes, people just slip into these unspoken group rules without thinking about how it affects others 🙄! have you considered broadening your circle a little or testing the waters in different settings? it's amazing what new people can bring into your life when you least expect it ❤️
It seems there might be some unspoken social norms affecting how your friend interacts with you in these group settings..have you considered whether cultural nuances in friendship dynamics could be influencing their behavior?
it's a bit of a head-scratcher, isn't it? sometimes social situations can feel like navigating a maze blindfolded. i’ve noticed that in group settings, people can unconsciously slip into stereotypical roles or assumptions without realizing how they're impacting others’ feelings. it's almost like there's this hidden rulebook everyone seems to be aware of except the person who's left out. reminds me of this one time when i felt awkwardly sidelined at a party because folks assumed i'd rather hang back than join in – totally not the case! if anything, maybe think about how you can assert your presence more confidently next time; not aggressively, but just making it clear you're down to hang and enjoy the vibe with them. at the end of the day, clarity can often bring unexpected connections where you'd least expect them.
honestly, it sounds like a classic case of "actions speak louder than words" in this situation; maybe she's not even aware how her behavior comes off. have you considered that she might be doing this unconsciously because she's just used to having someone else around in mixed groups? maybe it's not about you at all but more about her comfort level and group chemistry. i know it feels crappy being the odd one out, especially when you're trying to make connections in an already challenging social world; why didn't she think through your situation before acting so insensitively towards you? perhaps exploring other friendships that resonate more with who you are would offer a different perspective on these dynamics; there's always someone out there who will truly appreciate your company and efforts without making you feel sidelined.
sounds like you're in a bit of a pattern that isn't working well for you; have you thought about redefining your boundaries with her? maybe it's time to consider taking a step back and focusing on friendships that don't cause you stress or confusion. sometimes, putting energy into areas where it feels reciprocated can lead to more fulfilling connections 🧐
it's rough being caught up in that kind of situation, man; reminds me of when i was trying to fit in with a group that just didn't seem to get me. ever notice how sometimes people got these invisible lines they draw on who can join and who can't? maybe it's something like that going on with your friend circles, where expectations aren't always spoken but definitely felt 🤔. sounds like you've tried talking it out before, but if it just keeps turning into fights, might be worth seeing if folks outside this circle share the same vibe you do; friendships shouldn't feel like a constant battle for inclusion.
Honestly, sounds to me like your friend might be taking advantage of knowing you don't have a big social circle. I’ve been in situations where people keep you around 'cause they know you’re unlikely to bail since options are limited; it's not fair, but it's real. Her getting pissed at you for being honest is just immature; if she can't handle hearing how her actions make you feel, that's on her, not you. Maybe consider finding one or two solid friends who actually get ya and don’t play mind games; easier said than done but worth it long term. Sometimes shaking up your environment helps reveal who’ll really stick around when things aren’t convenient for them!
sounds like you've hit a complicated social snag, and those can be frustrating as hell 😩. maybe she's just not aware of how much her actions are affecting you, especially if she's acting on autopilot in group dynamics without considering the ripple effect on your feelings. it could be that her actions aren't about you specifically but more about maintaining her comfort zone within the group structures she’s used to. honestly, might be worth taking a step back and evaluating what you want out of this friendship: sometimes creating space can bring clarity and help determine if this dynamic is worth continuing or if it's time to seek connections that appreciate you more genuinely.
dude, it honestly sounds like there's some kind of double standard going on here. those girls are fine with one boy being around but trip when it's you?? that's bizarre! 😤 i know you're fed up, but maybe next time just roll with your gut and do what's comfortable for you instead of trying to fit into their group dynamics. if they can't see the value in having someone as chill as you around, then maybe it's their loss 🤷♂️
man, sounds like a mess you're caught up in 🤦♂️. it's like your friend has this invisible rulebook and you missed the memo or something! seriously tho, maybe it’s time to stop bending over backwards just to fit into her social circle when she clearly makes you feel left out; if she truly valued your friendship, she'd try to include you without making it awkward. i've been there too where it feels like i was always on the outside looking in and no matter how much effort i made, nothing changed 😂. at some point, ya gotta ask yourself if it's worth all the headache. there's nothing worse than feeling like an afterthought in someone's life so maybe shift your focus towards folks who actually want you around and appreciate what you bring to the table;.....