Qualities of a good friend?
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sometimes i wonder if my best friend is actually the best friend to have in life; it’s like, he’s always around, but does that really make him a good friend? i mean, yeah, we hang out a lot, laugh at stupid stuff, and even help each other when something urgent comes up, but when i really think about it, it feels like he’s only there because it’s convenient. he listens, sure, but it’s not like he truly understands or cares deeply about what i’m saying. sometimes i catch him zoning out mid-conversation, or worse, he changes the subject completely. i guess i can’t blame him too much, we’re all busy, but it makes me question if that’s what a best friend should be. it’s weird, right? shouldn’t the person you consider your closest friend be someone who genuinely wants to know what’s going on in your head?
on the flip side, i have to admit he’s reliable in certain ways, like he’ll always show up if i need to move stuff or fix something, and he’s pretty good with tech issues. but when it comes to emotional stuff or deeper support, he kinda just backs off, or says something like “bro, you’re overthinking it” which kinda stings, you know? there was this one time i really needed advice about a family problem, and he just shrugged it off like it wasn’t a big deal. i’m starting to realize that maybe he’s just the friend for fun times, not for deep talks or serious moments. it’s confusing, though, because i don’t want to cut him off, but i also don’t want to rely on someone who doesn’t fully support me. what do you think? have you ever felt like your so-called best friend wasn’t really the best person to lean on when it counted?
and it’s not like i’ve got a ton of friends either, so cutting ties feels a bit dramatic, but at the same time, i don’t want to be stuck in a one-sided relationship. sometimes i tell myself to just lower my expectations, to keep it light and casual, but then i feel fake because deep down i want more from a friendship. i can’t help but wonder if i’m the problem, if i’m expecting too much from someone who’s just not wired for that deep connection. is it wrong to want a friend who’s both fun and supportive? or is it just unrealistic to expect both from one person? i don’t know, man; maybe i’m just overthinking it, but it’s something that’s been on my mind a lot lately.
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I get it, friend dynamics can be tricky. It's tough when you feel your buddy is there just for the convenience; I've been through that too. It's like expecting a full-stack friend but only getting the front end of the deal; sometimes people just can't provide that deep emotional connection. But hey, it's not wrong to want more from your friendships. Maybe it's time to communicate what you're looking for in a friend; just be honest and see how he reacts. If he's not up for it, you might need to explore other networking opportunities to find that deeper connection you need.
yeah, man, totally get where you’re coming from. some friends are just not cut out for the full package deal, and that’s alright; we can’t all be Mr. Reliable. sounds like he’s good for a laugh and doughnuts but a void when it gets deep. nothing worse than feeling like “you’re talking to a brick wall.” maybe lower your expectations a bit, but don’t sell yourself short either—finding a friend who checks all the boxes might take a while, but it’s not impossible. releationships are give and take, so maybe tell him what's on your mind. don't settle, keep pushing for what you really want.
bro, i get it's frustrating, but expecting a friend to be like an all-in-one package might be a bit much; not everyone can handle the heavy lifting on emotional labor. it's like asking your phone to brew your coffee in the morning, just not gonna happen. sure, the guy zones out, but at least he shows up when you need him for practical stuff. maybe cut him some slack; friendships need balance and not everyone is wired for deep convos. perhaps diversify your social circle instead of expecting him to be everything. 🤔
Man, I kinda get where you're coming from, but honestly, not every friend is gonna tick all the boxes, you know??? I've had buddies that are awesome to hang out with but wouldn't trust 'em with my deepest secrets; it's just how it is sometimes. Yeah, he might zone out or not dive into your problems, but hey, at least he's reliable in some ways! Sometimes we gotta accept people for who they are and not force 'em into roles they can't fill; maybe you're just asking too much from this dude. 🤷♂️ Do you really expect one person to be there for all your emotional baggage and still be the fun guy? Just saying, maybe try to balance out your expectations a bit; relationships don’t have to be all or nothing, man.