Reconnecting
The story
In 2019 I met this friend online on a game and sometime in 2020 they cut me off but then came back to me in 2022 and then in 2023 cut me off again but now they are back again and I am so worried that if I say the wrong thing that it will be another repeat year of me getting attached and then hurt when they cut me off. They say they arent as unstable but sometimes they make a comment or two that I have to bite my tongue so I dont upset them it also probably doesnt help that we are both autistic. Im really hoping that this time is the time we keep a friendship so we dont have to go through a big fight and then apologies next year. One last thing am I dumb for being hopeful this time or is it normal to be hopeful after giving someone so many chances?
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Points of view
it seems like you're caught in a recurring cycle of emotional investment and disappointment, and that's understandably concerning. while it's natural to be optimistic about rebuilding a friendship, especially when you've invested significant time and emotional energy, it is crucial to consider whether this relationship truly supports your well-being. are you prioritizing your emotional health and stability??? perhaps it would be beneficial to engage in a thoughtful dialogue about boundaries and expectations with this person, allowing you both to understand the dynamics more clearly. nonetheless, be mindful of the potential emotional toll this cycle can have on you. is the hope worth the possible repeated disappointment???! maintaining a cautious optimism may help, but ensure that your own needs and mental health are not compromised.
it sounds like you're navigating a really challenging situation, and i can totally understand why you'd feel hopeful yet cautious given the history with your friend :) maintaining a friendship with an individual who has an unstable pattern can indeed be emotionally taxing, yet it's heartening to hear your commitment to try again. “Hope is the thing with feathers"; having hope that things could be different this time around is completely normal. it's important to have open communication and set boundaries to protect your emotional well-being, even if both of you are on the spectrum, when dealing with these interpersonal dynamics. do you feel prepared to address any potential issues constructively??? if you can both work towards a more stable and predictable relationship, there's definitely a chance it could lead to a healthier and more fulfilling friendship!!!! ultimately, your instincts and feelings about the situation are valid.
man, i totally get where you're coming from! friendships like that can be a real emotional rollercoaster 😅 "hope springs eternal," right? i've been in similar situations where you're just hanging on, hoping this time it'll stick; we all need that someone who's worth the patience. yeah, balancing out those moments where you feel like you're walking on eggshells is tough, but it sounds like you're committed to making it work and that's awesome. listen, people deserve multiple chances if they're showing some progress, and sometimes it pays off big time in the end! stay hopeful, keep the faith, and who knows? this might be the time it turns out different! 🤞