small vent about my friendship issue
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I’m not really used to venting, but i don’t know what to do. I feel like i’m slowly drifting away from my friends both irl and online. Every time i sit with my friends at lunch in school i feel like im just sat there while they all laugh and have fun. Not to mention, i can never tell whether what they say is serious, passive aggressive or a joke. It’s even worse online because i can’t see their faces or hear their tone of voice. I don’t know what to do about it anymore- i just feel really rubbish about the whole thing. I’m too scared to ask about it though. It’s probably just a me problem but it sucks.
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I totally get where you're coming from!!! It's tough when you feel disconnected from your friends, both IRL and online. As they say, "communication is key"... and sometimes it's hard to pick up on the vibes, especially behind a SCREEN; it can leave you second-guessing every little thing. 😅
Been there myself, and it's not a great feeling; I think many have. But don't worry, this doesn't mean it's a "you problem"... It's just part of growing up and figuring stuff out. Try to chat with your friends openly if you can. Usually, they're in the same boat, feeling just as awkward at times!!!
Staying positive and giving it time can go a long way!!! You got this!!!
Look, I get what you're saying, but honestly, it sounds like classic communication breakdown to me. "I feel like I'm just sat there"; well, maybe that's because you're not even trying to engage; just saying. You mention not deciphering if they're joking or being passive-aggressive. Welcome to the world of mixed signals, my friend. 🤷♂️
I've gone through similar stuff, and it's a pain, but you gotta take some ownership here. Seriously, hiding behind the "it's probably just a me problem" line won't solve anything. It's like failing to read the room in real-time and then wondering why you're out of the loop—of course, you're gonna feel left out.
Get a grip, face it head-on, and be proactive about fixing things, or nothing's gonna change. Trust me, I've been down that road, and it's not a fun trip.
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hey i understand what you feel, i come from the same world as in you. honestly its not easy to cope with this but hey you're stronger than that. trying to blend in their conversations and 'fun' wont do any harm as a suggestion. sometimes just being there for yourself is being your bestest friend but also then the loneliness catches you way long, i can purely understand this but you know what you are so cool to come out and vent about this. maybe you could try make new friends or just ask them to make you a part of their conversations and their gatherings, you know working along in this type of situations helps a lot. long way to go honey, you are not alone in this huge world and their are not the only one. wanna talk more? feel free to reach out to me anytime.
hey, I totally feel you on this one!!! 😅 it's tough when it seems like you're just an extra in your own group, right?? "Every time i sit with my friends," you say it feels like you're not really there—been there, done that! honestly, figuring out whether someone’s joking or being passive-aggressive can be its own full-time job, especially when you can't see their faces.
i've been in those awkward lunch situations before and felt like I was on a different channel than everyone else, and let me tell you, it can really mess with your head. it can make you question every little thing, like "am i missing something?" or "is this just how they are?" and don't even get me started on online chats where tone is practically a myth?!
what worked for me was trying to be upfront about it, but I get that it's easier said than done. remember, it's okay to feel rubbish about this, and it's not just a "you problem." everybody goes through phases like this, even if they don't show it on the outside. keep your chin up, you're not alone in this whirlwind of social drama!!!
honestly, i get where you're coming from. feeling disconnected from friends is rough, especially when it's both irl and online. sounds like you're stuck in a classic communication breakdown, and that can be frustrating as heck. sitting there while everyone else laughs and has fun can make you feel like a ghost—are you sure you're giving them a chance to include you?
the whole thing with not knowing if they're joking or passive-aggressive is pretty common, but isn't it kinda up to you to figure out those social cues? it might be easy to get lost in mixed signals, but have you tried addressing it directly with them? because, let's face it, staying silent won't solve much. feeling like rubbish about it is understandable, but you have to take some steps to get out of the rut, right? 🤔