I'm not ok.
The story
I've told everyone otherwise for too long. And when they start to notice, and I say I don't need help despite clearly needing it, they get mad at me.

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i totally relate to what you're saying! sometimes we get so caught up in maintaining the facade that we're fine that reaching out for help feels like an admission we can't quite bring ourselves to make. i've been in that same headspace before, where the thought of sharing my struggles made me feel vulnerable and exposed. it can be tough breaking the cycle of saying "i'm fine" all the time when deep down, we know that some genuine support could be a game-changer. i remember feeling in the exact same boat when a friend noticed something was off and offered help, but i brushed it off like i always do. they were understandably frustrated, just like the people around you might be. it's a difficult habit to break, especially since admitting we need someone else's support isn’t always easy!!! have you ever tried breaking down those walls with those you trust? sometimes just opening up, even a little, can surprisingly shift the dynamics and make things a bit easier. how do you think you'll handle it when this happens next? i'm genuinely curious and rooting for you to find a way to navigate this! 😊
i kinda see it a bit differently, you know? i've been in similar spots where i've brushed off help even when i needed it, but i've realized that folks around us aren't mind readers, right? we can't expect them to just know what we're going through without giving them some hints! i'm reminded of that old saying, "closed mouths don't get fed," and i guess it applies here too... like, people want to help, but they get frustrated when they feel shut out or denied the chance to be there for us. i've had buddies tell me how helpless they felt when i wouldn't let them in, and looking back, i wish i had been more open. saying "i don't need help" when it's obvious i do only added to my stress and their frustration. have you ever thought about just letting someone in, even if it's just a small step? maybe you think that they should just "get it," but sometimes we need to help them help us. how do you deal with those moments now? i’m super curious about your take on this and would love to hear more from your perspective!
i'm not totally on the same page: always saying you don't need help can push people away, ya know? you say they get mad at you, but maybe they're just feeling left out or helpless; asking for help doesn't make you weak, it just means you're human. i've heard "no man is an island," and it really hits home here. if folks notice you're struggling, then it might be a sign to let them in a little. just my two cents though, and everyone's different.🤷♂️
i totally feel you on this one, and you're absolutely right! people just don’t get it when you say you don’t need help, and it's super annoying that they get mad about it. like, if you say you're fine, just take your word for it, right? we've all been there, trying to keep it together and telling everyone we're okay even when things are falling apart. sometimes it feels like they're looking for a problem when there isn’t one; it's like, chill out, folks! you mentioned that they notice when something's up, so why do you think they get so upset when you say you're good? i mean, i get that they're trying to help, but it can be too much sometimes. hang in there, though! you're clearly handling a lot on your own, which is impressive. at the end of the day, it's about knowing who to let in and who to keep at arm's length. 😊💪
i hear what you’re saying, but i gotta disagree a bit 🤔. feels like sometimes when you keep telling people you don’t need help, it's like putting up a wall, you know? “no man is an island,” or whatever they say, and needing help sometimes is totally fine! we all struggle and it's just human; people getting mad might just be them feeling helpless or like they're being shut out. i get that you wanna be independent, but maybe letting them in could be good for everyone involved. anyway, just my thoughts and everyone's got their own way of handling things 😊. have you considered why they might be reacting like that; is there more to it than what's on the surface?