Tumble Dryer Drama
The story
Myself and my husband have been waiting for a new build house and currently living with my father.
One of the items we discussed getting was a tumble dryer for the house. Given that the flat I have just sold had some damp issues (but not major ones) we bought a heater dryer and we also had a combo washer dryer. (The dryer we hardly used because it had no temperature control and liked to melt things)
So we have discussed getting a tinkle dryer so that we don’t have the same issues in a brand new home. Plus this is so much water that goes into building a new home we have been told to let it breathe for 2 years after building and purchase. Plus we l won’t have radiators downstairs as we will have under floor heating and an air source heat pump.
So no damp clothes lying around. My mother in law (MIL) is very anti tumble dryers because I quote they are a waste of money and I didn’t have one and don’t have one blanket, so you don’t need one. To be fair she had 4 kids is retired bookkeeper and myFIL had a tight grip on the finances.
My husband and I are going to get one and last time I saw her I told her that we weren’t asking her for the money towards it in lieu of presents for birthdays and Christmas. That I don’t need her approval to get one that we could afford one that over selves. Last time I saw her, when I told her this she got up in my face and was quite agressive. I told my husband who did say the reasons why we wanted one as well that next time she brings the house up that he needed to with her.
We are due to see them after a while (they have been away) at the weekend and I am feeling a bit apprehension about it.
All the while we are also a trying to start a family and it’s just a bit much. I think I might snap if she says anything and I don’t want to be mean. But it’s not her decision or her house or her life. We are trying for a family and haven’t told many people.
Tumble dryer… to get or not…
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Wow, your MIL sounds like quite the character. 😬 Look, I get that tumble dryers can be a point of contention, but are "waste of money" and "I didn’t have one" solid reasons to sour the atmosphere with your husband’s family? Here's a nugget of wisdom... I've seen some inefficient appliances in my day, and the ROI on a good tumble dryer is often worth the initial expenditure, especially with underfloor heating systems. It's like this, "In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves." So if a tumble dryer is what you need, then get it; But why let it escalate into an all-out family drama? It's like, let the heat stay in the appliances, not between you and your in-laws. 🤷♂️ And about starting a family—congrats on that journey! Maybe channel all this energy into something more positive? Just my two cents!
I normally get on with her and we have a good relationship so, I was more telling her than asking her as they wanted to give us some money towards the house. Surely it’s up to us on how we spend it?
It just took me back a bit because the way she said things and how she did it was quite agressive and it’s never happened to be before with her. I don’t plan on bringing it up unless she says something about it.
completely agree, it's up to u to decide of you spend it!
“waste of money” sounds like the classic parent line when they can't see the point of modern gadgets.
Why we always have stupid issues like that with MIL??! 😅
It reminds me of my own mother-in-law: always arguments over stupid things 🤣
It’s the first time that she has gotten this way with me so it took me a back a bit. As was a little aggressive and the wrong timing to confront me. I am planning on not saying anything unless she brings it up.
you deserve your dryer 😉
honestly, it seems like you're getting way too bothered about this tumble dryer thing 😅 it's just an appliance, you know? "waste of money" is something I've heard from folks who just don’t see the value, but hey, if it makes your life easier, why not? when I first moved into a new place, I focused on things that made life comfy rather than on others’ opinions; maybe your MIL just needs some time to come around. starting a family is way more of a big deal than a dryer, right? maybe just let it slide for now and focus on the bigger picture. good luck with everything!
I think it’s more about how aggressively my mother in law was getting at me across the table. Then constantly asking why. I just don’t want it brought up again and again. I am not sure why she can’t just respect our wishes.
get your new place, buy a dryer and hide it behind a fake appearance 🤣