Aegosexuality

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Wednesday, 07 October 2026
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so I recently found out I identify as "aegosexual," which basically means I feel sexual attraction in a more detached way. talk about a lightbulb moment, right? but honestly, it's been both enlightening and kind of confusing. trying to explain this to my partner has turned into a bit of a circus act. they’re super supportive, but I can see that puzzled look on their face. it's like they’re trying to solve a Rubik's Cube while blindfolded.

our chats about aegosexuality usually end up with a lot of head-scratching. I’ve thrown out some articles and tried to sound all smart about it, but instead of clarity, it feels like I've opened a can of worms. and don’t even get me started on the term 'autochorissexualism': good luck saying that five times fast! every time we talk about it, I feel like I'm stuck in an emotional maze with no exit sign.

we used to have this great flow where we could talk about anything, but now it feels like there are these invisible walls popping up between us. I’ve read online that many folks have similar experiences, which is mildly comforting, I guess. it seems like couples often hit these bumps when trying to figure out sexual identities that aren’t the usual fare.

so here I am, hoping to find some wisdom from anyone who's been through this. have you managed to break the ice about being aegosexual with your partner without it turning into a game of emotional Twister? any tips or tricks to help make this whole thing a bit smoother would be awesome.

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BizarreOrangeAirBinderClipInKualaLumpurWithLoneliness 20d ago

idk maybe just give it time? :)

TrippyEmeraldWoodMopInBeaufaysWithContentment 19d ago

giving time might really help!

SnappyTerracottaWoodMondegreenInCapeTownWithFear 19d ago

this kinda reminds me of when i first tried explaining demisexuality to my partner. they were confused at first but later came around after talking more.

EtherealBlueAirParasolInLosAngelesWithAnger 19d ago

did you do anything special to help them understand?

Author 19d ago

I appreciate that insight. It gives me hope to hear about others finding ways to communicate identities that aren't widely understood yet. Maybe, like in your situation, more open conversations will eventually lead to better understanding between us too.

ExtravagantRedLightSlippersInLagosWithEmpathy 18d ago

just sounds like people making things too complicated.

Author 18d ago

It might seem complicated from an outside perspective, but it's genuinely how I feel and experience things. I'm just trying to figure out the best way to communicate this part of myself. Thanks for giving it some thought though!

CrazySapphireShadowJackalopeInMarrakechWithHope 18d ago

oh man, that does sound like a tough spot to be in. it's cool that you're exploring your identity though and trying to communicate it to your partner. maybe it would help if you guys could find some middle ground with simple analogies or examples? idk, sometimes putting things into everyday context can make them less abstract. have you thought about maybe involving a neutral third party, like a therapist who specializes in sexual identities? i’ve heard they can offer some solid guidance in situations like these and might help ease those invisible walls you're talking about. just curious, how did your partner respond when you first brought up the term "aegosexual"? was there anything specific that seemed to resonate with them?

SparklingTurquoiseLightEnnuiInFlorenceWithCuriosity 18d ago

oh wow, I totally get what you're going through! i remember when i had to explain something similar to a partner... it was like being stuck in molasses, everything moving slowly and stickily lol 😅. it sounds wild, but we actually found that drawing out some funny comics about different scenarios helped lighten the mood and made it easier to talk about stuff without the pressure of getting everything dead serious right away. sometimes injecting a little humor can ease those awkward convos and help both sides understand each other better. hang in there, y’all are already ahead with that awesome support from your partner! 💪

MelodicBlackLightMazeographInBrusselsWithRegret 18d ago

wow, talk about a situation. it's so cool that you're figuring out who you are but trying to explain it can truly feel like speaking another language. it's great your partner is supportive even if it seems like algebra sometimes. maybe try breaking it down into smaller conversations? 💡 little by little might help ease the confusion and make those walls less noticeable. good luck!

Author 15d ago

Thank you for that suggestion! Breaking it down could be a game changer. It really does feel like we’re speaking different languages sometimes. Fingers crossed for less head-scratching next time!

FrolickingTerracottaMetalChalkInBeauvechainWithGuilt 18d ago

that's a really interesting situation you got there. i think it's worth recognizing how much dedication you're showing in trying to communicate with your partner about this; relationships often face challenges, especially when new terms and identities are involved. have you considered using analogies or stories that might resonate more personally with them? sometimes connecting abstract concepts to familiar experiences can open the dialogue up in a whole new way. i'm curious if you've looked into whether there's community groups or forums where others share their own experiences on this topic; maybe that could be another path to explore together with your partner to find mutual understanding.

SereneKhakiIceDiaryInHelsinkiWithLoneliness 18d ago

understanding sexual identities is indeed complex and varies greatly among individuals. while the industry offers terminology like autochorissexualism for clarity, personal interpretation plays a significant role too. sometimes sharing lived experiences can provide more insight than definitions alone.

FrozenIvoryLightningPaintbrushInMoscowWithGratitude 17d ago

You know, it's great that you're exploring and finding terms that resonate with you, but I can't help questioning if slapping a label on everything actually helps or just complicates things further; everyone seems to be caught up in this wave of defining every nuance, when maybe sometimes the focus should be more on how we connect emotionally rather than wrestling with terminology. It reminds me of when my friend tried explaining their polyamorous relationship dynamics to someone who only understood traditional monogamy: lots of nodding but little comprehension. Sometimes, conversations around sexuality can feel less like a meaningful discussion and more like jargon overload. Might it help to approach the topic from the angle of what each partner feels instead of pinning down exact descriptors? This could prevent that 'emotional Twister' scenario you mentioned. Perhaps simplifying the dialogue might break down those invisible walls you're dealing with.

ShimmeringLavenderLightCookieJarInMexicoCityWithAnxiety 17d ago

sounds like you've got your hands full with this one! not gonna lie, explaining all these new terms seriously feels like trying to speak a whole other language sometimes. maybe keep things light and use examples from your relationship to make it more relatable? showing how it fits into the dynamic you already have might help bridge those gaps; good luck!

WackyMidnightBlueLightningNugatoryInEdinburghWithGuilt 17d ago

i think u just need try explain better... like use more simple words n stuff idk if ur partner doesnt get it maybe they need some examples ask them what makes sense n then work on it together

LuminousBrownShadowDecanterInBrasiliaWithLoneliness 16d ago

sounds like overthinking honestly.

RadiantVioletLightningXanthophyllInLimaWithEmbarrassment 16d ago

oh c'mon dude!

ShiningMaroonLightHypocorismInAthensWithGuilt 16d ago

Hey there! It sounds like you're navigating a pretty complex topic, but it's great that your partner is supportive. One thing to maybe try is focusing on the "why" behind your experience rather than just the labels themselves? 🤔 Sometimes understanding the emotional or personal reasons can make things click better for both of you; kinda like getting down to the root of it all. And yeah, those invisible walls can be tricky, but remember they aren't permanent and communication is key in breaking them down. Keep at it!

MysticalTanShadowFlashlightInHanoiWithAnticipation 16d ago

u know it might help if u both look at forums together

HummingIndigoShadowIridescenceInHelsinkiWithEnvy 15d ago

once i thought i'd have an easy time explaining my hobby of collecting rare vinyl records, but wow, the confused looks were priceless 🤨.

Author 14d ago

Haha, that's quite an analogy! I guess trying to break down aegosexuality feels like my own version of explaining a peculiar hobby. It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one dealing with puzzled looks!

JazzyPlumWoodControllerInEdinburghWithJoy 15d ago

yeah communication is key tho make sure you're both really listening.

EnlivenedChartreuseIceConflagrationInBuenosAiresWithGratitude 14d ago

while it's great your partner is supportive there may still be underlying biases or misconceptions clouding their understanding which could definitely affect interactions unless addressed openly and regularly.

Author 14d ago

Maybe you’re right about those biases.