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It sounds like you're going through a really tough and confusing situation. It's clear that you have strong feelings for BA, but it's unfortunate that circumstances, like transferring schools and the social environment you're both in, make it so complicated. It's difficult when you're in a place where expressing your feelings could lead to negative consequences, especially with the environment being as you've described.

Trying to maintain a connection with BA through DMs could be a way to keep your friendship alive, even if you can't share everything you're feeling right now. Sometimes, just keeping that line of communication open can help bridge the gap that distance and time create. As for your feelings, it's understandable to feel hesitant given the potential challenges. It's tough to predict how someone will react, and the fear of risk is totally valid.

Remember, it's okay to take your time to figure things out and prioritize what's best for you. This is a delicate situation, and feeling this uncertainty is completely reasonable. Hang in there, and I hope things become clearer for you over time.

man, it sounds like you’ve been dealing with a lot of emotions. totally get where you’re coming from. being in a sitch where you have feelings for someone but can't express them freely really sucks. i remember having a crush in high school, and it’s like you're torn between wanting to scream it from the rooftops and keeping it on the down-low.

trying to manage a long-distance thing when you don’t even know how they feel is super tricky. but i think keeping in touch through DMs might help you figure things out a bit more, you know? maybe you'll get more clarity on how he feels over time. the school's vibe makes it hard too, doesn't it? the pressure to conform to what others think is just exhausting.

just keep doing what feels right for you. sometimes, just knowing you’re staying true to yourself can be a relief. good luck with everything; sounds like you're handling it as best as you can. 😊

i get it, you're in a tough spot. it's not easy dealing with feelings like this, especially when the social scene isn't supportive. but honestly, keeping those feelings to yourself might be holding you back. instead of overthinking what he might feel or how people may react, maybe give it more thought about what you want.

you mentioned having his DMs, so why not try reaching out a bit more and see how things go between you two? communication could clear up a lot of your doubts. sometimes just taking small steps makes a big difference. the focus could be more on finding some clarity for yourself, even if it's just a little bit at a time. good luck with everything and take care of yourself!

hey, i totally hear you, and it’s rough being stuck in that limbo of feelings. i had a similar scenario back in school with liking someone but knowing the environment wasn't supportive. it’s like you’re juggling these emotions while also dealing with peer pressure and societal norms; makes it way more complicated.

keeping up with him through DMs might give you some insight, but it’s true that long-distance makes things tricky. and yeah, not knowing how he feels or what could happen if you’re honest can really weigh on you. the social dynamics at your school aren’t making it any easier either 😕

just take it one step at a time. maybe things will get clearer once you’re settled in the new school; remember to do what feels right for you in this moment.

hey, i get where you’re coming from, but I gotta say, overthinking this might just add unnecessary stress. transferring schools isn’t always the end of a friendship or crush, you know? when I changed schools, I found that it was easier to stay in touch with people than I thought, especially with all the tech we have now.

saying you can't ask him out because of the school's attitude feels a bit like letting others dictate your choices!!! isn't it possible he might be more open-minded than you think? maybe try talking to him about your transfer to see if he wants to keep in touch; it worked for me back in the day when I had to switch schools. communication could go a long way here. good luck with whatever you decide!

sounds like you're in a bind, and it's understandable. you've got feelings for this guy, but the environment is hostile. "it's fine" isn't the right mindset here. running away isn't a solution.

you fear how others perceive same-sex relationships. valid concern. but you can't control societal prejudices. staying closeted because of the school's perspective is shortsighted. maybe he feels the same, or maybe not. you won't know if you don't communicate.

the long-distance issue? yes, it's problematic. not a reason to give up entirely though. tackle the immediate issue first. honesty with yourself and him might alleviate this tension. good luck managing this mess.

dude, totally get what you're going through! it sucks when society makes it hard to just be honest about your feelings. "what I didn’t tell him"? maybe it's time you did! sometimes just ripping the band-aid off is the best way to go;

had a similar situation back then, and it felt like the world was against me. but guess what? when I finally told my crush how I felt, it was such a relief!!! even if nothing came of it, at least it was off my chest. maybe start by just letting him know about the school transfer—keeps things open! good luck navigating this mess; you've got this!

i hear you, it sounds like a tough spot to be in. the feelings you've got for BA seem genuine, and it's frustrating when the social environment doesn't support you being open about them. i remember having a crush in a similar setting, where it felt like my hands were tied because of what others might think.

the part where you mentioned, "i don't know if he's just as interested" really hits home. it's hard not knowing if the feeling's mutual, and the fear of it affecting the dynamic is real. keeping things to yourself can be a safe way to manage this, but it also leaves you in a sort of limbo, right?

maybe just starting by letting him know about your school transfer could open some doors. helps keep the connection alive and see where it can go. it's like taking small steps and seeing if it leads to anything more significant before diving in. whatever happens, you've shown a lot of depth and consideration in how you're handling it. keep it up!

i hear you, but honestly, you're kinda overcomplicating things. saying "i don’t know what to do" and not doing anything about it won’t help. you’ve got his DMs, right? use them. worst case, you find out they're not into you that way. been there, worried myself sick over someone, and yeah, the uncertainty can mess with your head.

sure, it's tough with the school vibe being all homophobic, but it's on you to create your own environment too. saying nothing just builds this giant wall of what-ifs. when I finally spoke up about my feelings, it wasn’t easy, but man, it was way better than imagining every possible bad outcome.

so maybe instead of worrying about the future, focus on what's happening now. give it a shot, see where it goes. don't let the fear of what others think hold you back forever.

i hear your frustration, and navigating these feelings can be tough. sounds like you've got a lot on your plate with these emotions and the school situation. you mentioned, "i want to ask him out someday, but i can't," which shows you're aware of the challenges ahead. 😊

consider keeping the conversation open with him, even if it's just casually through DMs. staying connected might help, even if it doesn’t immediately solve everything. it’s cool to prioritize what feels right for you, given the circumstances. a little honesty can sometimes lighten the load you're carrying. take care and hang in there!