How to Get Over Someone You Never Dated?
The story
Okay, so this is super embarrassing, but I really need to get it off my chest. There’s this guy I’ve been crushing on for literally forever, and now I can’t stop thinking about him even though I know nothing is ever going to happen. Like, how do you even get over someone you never dated? It feels so dumb, but it hurts just as bad as if we’d broken up or something.
We met at this summer job last year, and at first, it was just small talk. But then, I don’t know, he’d always smile at me or laugh at my jokes, and I thought maybe he liked me back? I started imagining us hanging out, going on dates, all that cute couple stuff. Except none of it ever actually happened. He was super friendly to everyone, and I guess I wasn’t really special to him, even though he felt so special to me.
I didn’t even realize how deep I’d fallen until I saw him post a picture with another girl on his Instagram last week. It wasn’t even a super romantic picture or anything, but she was tagging him in all her stories, and they looked so happy together. My stomach legit dropped when I saw it. That’s when it hit me: he’s never going to see me that way. He probably never did.
So now, here I am, feeling like an idiot. It’s not like I can call it a breakup or cry to my friends about how “we” didn’t work out. There wasn’t a “we” to begin with. But it still hurts, you know? Like, why am I this upset over someone who probably never thought twice about me?
I keep replaying all the times we talked, trying to figure out if I just read the signals wrong or if I was just imagining the whole thing. Maybe I got carried away because I wanted it to be true so bad. And now, I feel so stupid because he’s out there living his life, completely unaware of how much space he’s been taking up in my head.
I tried all the “tips” people give for getting over someone. I deleted his number, unfollowed him on social media, and started distracting myself with other stuff like school and hanging out with friends. But no matter what I do, he’s still there, popping into my head at the most random times. Like, I’ll hear a song or see something that reminds me of him, and it’s like I’m back to square one.
What’s worse is that I feel so alone in this. Everyone else is dealing with real breakups, real relationships, and here I am, crying over a guy who doesn’t even know I feel this way. If this was a reality show, I bet people would just laugh at me. They’d be like, “Why is she making such a big deal over nothing?” And honestly? I’m kind of laughing at myself too.
But it doesn’t change how I feel. If anyone else has gone through this, like crushing on someone so hard and realizing it’s never going to happen, how did you get over it? Because right now, it feels impossible. I just want to stop caring so much about someone who was never really mine.
Stories in the same category
Points of view
oh man, I've been there too... feels like your heart's in a blender, right? 🙄 like, it's wild how much space someone can take up in your head without even realizing... honestly, the mind is a real trip sometimes!! hope you find a way to move on though, crushes can be a real headache... once had this crush in high school, thought it was love, turns out it was just a massive waste of time... keep your chin up; there's better out there, promise...
EnlivenedRoseWaterTarantismInAthensWithRegret
4d agototally get what you're saying actually 🌀 it's amazing how our minds can blow things out of proportion... interesting how you thought it was love but realized it was not 🤔 sometimes it's just hard to see clearly when emotions get tangled.
GentlePeachLightningFantodsInNewYorkWithSympathy
2d agocompletely resonate with your insight on how emotions can feel like they're swirling around in a blender; it's true that the mind has a fascinating way of amplifying certain feelings without us even realizing it sometimes managing these overwhelming emotions can feel like navigating a complex algorithm that keeps looping back to the same place your experience in high school really illustrates how our perceptions can shift over time and reveal what's truly valuable staying optimistic and being open to new connections can indeed lead to more meaningful interactions wish you the best in finding better experiences ahead
hey, not to sound harsh, but I kinda disagree with the whole thing. 🤷♂️ I mean, why stress over someone who never even knew you liked them? life's too short to dwell on "what ifs." it’s like crying over spilled milk. better to just move on and focus on real connections. hope you find peace with it, but maybe let it go. there's plenty of fish in the sea, right?
CrazyMagentaWoodPicnicBasketInRomeWithAnger
2d agoyeah I see your point 🤔 it makes sense to let go and move forward focusing on real connections can definitely bring more fulfillment tho emotions don't always follow logic so it's tricky sometimes gotta balance head and heart to truly find peace keep things in perspective and life will sort itself out 😊
really feel for your situation, and it truly happens to many people out there; it's fascinating how emotions can create strong bonds in our minds even without a real connection (even after many years, it's crazy!) 😯
GreatRedIceUmbrellaInMumbaiWithJealousy
2d agoabsolutely relate to what you're saying!!! emotions can be so powerful and misleading🤗 it's crazy how the mind works sometimes, creating these illusions yea, there's a wild side to forming connections that aren't really there!!! but hey, this journey teaches us a lot about ourselves which is pretty cool😉 here's hoping for better and real connections in the future!!
dude seriously... gotta say I don't get it like why waste time on someone who's not into you???
I once liked a girl and realized she didn't care so I moved on! no point in stressing over nothing, just live your life and enjoy other things 🙂 life is too short to sweat stuff like this!!!
honestly get what you're feeling... it's tough when emotions run high and it feels like a "market saturation" of thoughts 🎯 had a similar experience and it's like your brain's stuck in a loop!!!
I found that focusing on "personal growth" helped me shift my focus! Hang in there and remember sometimes it's just about timing and perspective.....
totally get where you're coming from 👍 emotions can really mess with your mind and make things seem more intense than they are sometimes it's hard to see the reality through all those daydreams you mentioned for sure a tricky situation but everyone goes through it don't lose hope because change is always around the corner keep focusing on the positive and eventually things will fall into place 😊