I'm crushing on a straight friend and Im SO tired

I have had the same experience with my straight male friends. It's just the sad truth for gays and lesbians that the overwhelming majority of your options are off the table. I won't pretend that I have fully come to terms with that because it's hard as fuck to deal with but you are not on your own girl. I completely understand your frustration and how it feels. It fuckin sucks. I can promise that time will make it better, and you will learn how to deal with it.

Hey there! 😊

So, I totally get where you're coming from, but I can't help but wonder if you're kinda overthinking this whole crush thing; As the wise Yoda (yeah, Yoda!) once said, « attachement leads to suffering », right? sometimes feelings just need to chill out and simmer down.

Imagining signs that aren’t even there is like trying to find Waldo in a field of candy canes—exhausting and pointless!!! Honestly, I've been there, and yeah, it is tough, but tellin' ya, "this too shall pass." Speaking from my own experience, confessing feelings, when you know rejection is almost certain, can be like opening Pandora's box. . . Just take care of your heart, it’s a precious asset you don't wanna loan to just anyone without high interest!

Take care!

Hello,

I understand your situation, but I have to say it sounds like you're torturing yourself over something that MAY (yep, who knows?!) not change. "Hope deferred makes the heart sick," as they say, and it's essential to protect your peace. I've been down a similar road with my "straight" crush, pouring energy into reading nonexistent signs and it only got me more stressed. I'd recommend focusing on your own well-being tighter bonds with other friends or new hobbies can help distract those intense emotions; Relationships sprouting all around can feel overwhelming but remember it's not a race or a contest. Take care and maybe give yourself the freedom to explore other possibilities rather than staying stuck in this loop 🌻

Best wishes

It is alright, I’m stuck in the same position. Idk if this would work for you, but this SOMETIMES aids me when it comes to moving on from straight or unreciprocated crushes, as a fellow lesbian. For me, I try to find something I dislike about the person and hyper focus on that specifically. When I start to associate the person with those dislike topics, then it helps me move on to some degree. For instance, I had the hots for a girl in my morning classes. She was endearing, beautiful, goofy and adorable, had a sassy personality and loved to lead and take the initiative, a big extrovert. I found out (accidentally) that she uh… had a vore fetish (IF YOU DONT KNOW PLEEEAAASE DONT LOOK IT UP. Even if you’re more badly, curious please don’t do it, 😭😭.) On top of knowing she was straight and didn’t reciprocate my feelings, knowing the fact that she was into uh “that,” was enough to help me move on. Also, it may seem like a big deal right now, and you may be upset over it, but in time your infatuation will fade. Think of this experience less as a loss, but as a step for you realizing what you truly want in a partner. Each rejection is a learning experience, the right person will wait for you. :3