I really don't know anymore. You try to be polite, you do your best and somehow it's never enough. I was having a conversation with a friend (or at least I thought they were my friend) the other day and it just spiraled into one of those situations that makes you question everything. They kept saying "i'm sorry you feel that way" like it was some sort of rebuttal to every single point I tried to make. How is 'sorry you feel that way' even an answer? It's so dismissive, and frankly, it feels manipulative.

It's like I'm not being heard at all. We were talking about something pretty minor in the grand scheme of things – whose turn it was to pay for dinner next time (because we take turns), nothing too deep or world-changing. But then they just started acting like I was making a mountain out of a molehill when, honestly, it’s just about fairness and keeping things even. Don't get me wrong, sometimes I'm willing to let small stuff slide but when it adds up over time, shouldn't there be some sort of acknowledgment?

I mean sure maybe I'm overthinking things but isn't communication supposed to be two-sided? Why does expressing your feelings become an issue? Maybe I'm wrong here but when someone tells you "it's not that big of a deal," and “i’m sorry you feel this way” almost in the same breath... what am I supposed to do with that?

So yeah now I've been left wondering if they're just stringing me along because it's convenient for them or if there's something else behind their words. It leaves such doubt in my mind because why on earth would anyone keep repeating something so condescending unless they genuinely don’t care or think you're blowing things outta proportion?

Now I'm stuck re-evaluating even the simple interactions we’ve had past few months thinking back on past scenarios with new eyes... So frustrating! Am I crazy for wanting more real conversations? Has anyone else been through similar junk?

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