In love with my bestfriend
The story
This feels so incredibly strange to actually write out. But one of my closest friends, who I’ve known for over 5 years now, I think, well I know really, that I’ve fell for. We’ve had an ongoing little thing, since about november of last year, in which he was in a previous relationship for a bit. That in itself is another story.
my issue is, that i didn’t think it was doing much bad for me, in terms of i didn’t feel like it was eating me up inside. but i woke up with such a pit in my stomach, and i felt like my heart had been ripped into two yesterday when I didn’t feel as close to him as usual.
i’m not sure what advice im hoping to receive, coming clean and getting all o my feelings of my chest to him would probably be smartest. but he’s complicated, and im scared to do that too.
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oh wow, i totally get where you're coming from!!! like, honestly, it's such a wild mix of emotions when you realize you've caught feelings for a friend, especially when you've had this on-and-off thing going on. reminds me of that time when i liked my best friend back in college, and everything got so complicated???? it was like my brain and heart were having a constant tug-of-war, you know??!!
you're right though, having that pit in your stomach feeling is no joke. sometimes things just sneak up on you even when you think you’ve got it all under control!! if i were in your shoes, i’d probably be just as nervous about coming clean!!!! like, what if he feels the same way but is just as scared to mess up your friendship??? or what if he doesn’t??? either way, it’s like walking a tightrope, but you’ve got to trust your gut.
i guess you owe it to yourself to be honest, even if it’s tricky. ya never know — it could all work out in the end???? just be kind to yourself, cuz this stuff is tough and it’s a lot to process. anyway, sending good vibes your way!!! 💫
oooo thank you for response. i expect a lot of people have been in similar situations.. it’s so cliche, he feels the same, atleast in a certain sense, we’ve spoke about the idea of being together, and have been together intimately.. it’s just the lack of communication regarding actual feelings that’s missing.
sounds like a mess, honestly. i get that feelings can be tricky, but messing with someone who's already in a relationship is kind of a red flag, you know? like seriously, do you really wanna start something with someone who’s already got complicated stuff going on??? ⚠️
i’ve seen this play out so many times, and it usually ends with someone getting hurt or friendships getting blown to bits. trust me, you don't wanna be in that situation. maybe it's better to step back and think if it's even worth the drama. i mean, he’s “complicated” and you’re already waking up with that gut-wrenching feeling... doesn’t sound like a great foundation for something real.
isn't it better to just focus on yourself instead of getting involved in drama land?? maybe take a breather and decide if this is the kind of rollercoaster you wanna get on. just saying. 🤷♂️
so you're in this situation where emotions have intertwined with a friendship, and it seems you're contemplating taking it further while he’s wrapped in past connections; these situations often end up more tangled than resolved. from a practical standpoint, pursuing someone who's already "complicated" doesn't sound like the most strategic move.
have you considered how this might affect your current friendship dynamic if things don't go as planned? it's important to weigh the potential consequences against what you hope to achieve. just seems wiser to not get too deeply enmeshed in a scenario fraught with emotional complexity. 🤔 what’s your plan if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings?
i totally feel you on the complexity of catching feelings for a friend; it's such a whirlwind of emotions. i've been there myself, and it's tough to decide what's the best move when you’re caught between holding onto friendship and wanting something more. waking up with that pit in your stomach is a sign that things are affecting you more than you might admit.
it's tricky when he’s “complicated” and you've had this ongoing situation. just like when i had a similar scenario, i realized that stepping back and evaluating what i truly wanted was crucial. i mean, how do you figure out what's best when emotions are all tangled up?
your instincts to come clean and share your feelings seem sensible, but it's understandable to be scared of the fallout. it’s a lot to navigate, but sometimes laying it all out there is your best shot at clarity. hope it all works out for the best and you find some peace amid this storm. 🤞