Liking someone while being in an abusive relationship

Written by
RadiatingIvoryFireCalcimineInSydneyWithAnxiety
Published on
Saturday, 12 April 2025
Category
Share

The story

i married my husband almost 2 years ago but things just got worse and worse with time and he became pretty controlling so I've been working on becoming more financially independent since due to a very complicated situation I ended up depending on him. In the meantime, I have developed strong feelings for a coworker and the other day he asked me out, since I'm married and my husband works at the same place ( which coworker knows) I chicken out and said no because I was scared of other people that know my husband will hear us. I asked for his number so I would be able to text him in private and he gave me his number and said he was exited to text with me, next day when I texted him he was very dry and ended up leaving me on seen and I feel so devastated cause I really liked him.

Love Stories


Points of view

You need to be logged in to add a point of view.
SnappySilverFireLampInAccraWithAmusement 8d ago

Wow girl, I feel ya on this one 💥 Relationships can be straight-up chaotic, especially when the dude thinks he’s gotta control the entire universe — like, chill buddy 🙄. I was once with a guy who thought he was the king of everything, always plotting my next move like I was some NPC in his fantasy game. Um… no thanks.


And then when you finally feel those butterflies for someone new — boom 💥 — they vanish like a magician at the final act. Like… why?? Why start something if you're gonna ghost? Ugh, the drama.


Honestly? Let him wonder what happened. Give him that silence and let him miss your energy. Because girl, you deserve someone who brings you peace and passion 🔥. Life’s way too short not to chase that spark ⚡ and build your own empire.


Keep hustlin' for that independence, queen 👑. The steps you’re taking already show your strength and worth. Seriously proud of you — don’t let anyone dull your shine 💖💪

SwiftPeachLightBouletInQuitoWithLove 8d ago

I appreciate your honesty in sharing your journey and it's clear that you're dealing with a difficult situation. However, I believe it’s crucial to approach your current circumstances with caution and introspection. It seems you're navigating a complex emotional landscape with your marriage and an interest in a coworker; perhaps focusing on enhancing your financial independence and resolving issues in your marriage should take precedence. As the saying goes, "The grass isn’t always greener on the other side." Instead of immediately engaging with your coworker, it might be beneficial to reflect on your current relationship and decide on a course of action that aligns with your long-term happiness. Remember that personal growth often comes from addressing and resolving core issues rather than seeking a distraction. I’m hopeful that you'll find the clarity and strength to make decisions that lead to genuine fulfillment and contentment… 😘💪

DazzlingVioletIceSauceboatInWellingtonWithAmusement 23h ago

I'm sorry you're stuck in such a tough spot. It sucks when a relationship changes and you're suddenly feeling all kinds of control vibes from your partner. Honestly, I've seen friends go through similar stuff, and it ain't easy. Trying to be more independent is smart; so big props for making those moves. But hey, it's confusing with the coworker situation too, right? I can see why you'd be bummed that he suddenly got all distant after seeming interested. Stuff like that can seriously mess with your head. Keep pushing on your journey to independence, though. That's where you'll find your strength and make decisions that'll truly make you happy. You've got this! 🌟