love is hard
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Im not too big of a writer so dont mind the grammar stuff.
I have too many thoughts going on rn. idk where to start ig ill start with my love life thoughts
I like this guy, I have had crush on this guy for like 5 yrs. ikr crazy. i don't feel like im meant to be loved. i hate thinking that about myself but i genuinely cant help it. his ex's are so pretty. they are prettier than me. they are skinnier than me. they are more confident than me. i can go on. whenever i see them, i feel jealousy(?), or idk i get mad. not at them but at myself. they didnt do anyhing wrong, they just exist and happen to at some point be his gf. im so stupid. my crush and i actually had a 1hr long convo (or idk maybe it wasnt 1hr long but it felt long). idk how the stars aligned that day. truly a miracle. we laughed alot, talked about diff things. it was fun. but u see im a bit stupid. he talks to every girl like that. and now that i think about it. that convo was just a simple convo between 2 people. he talks to his friends (who r girls). he teases them (in a way friends do). he sits with them. he plays games with them. ( its their friend group that consists fo like 4 guys and 4 girls). those girls are just normal friends to him. im good friends with those girls too (good enough that they invited me to their weddings) but im not a part of their group. i get jealous of them sometimes, seeing how he talks to them, teases them, etc. we never talked ever (except the time i told u about rn) even when we were in working in groups too. i do wish i get to talk to him again. ik we arent meant to be so ill just have fun like this. btw idk how to talk to guys ha ha ha. that could be the root of the problem.
i actually have never dated anyone. ever. ever. ive had alot of crushes but never ever talked to them. never. no one has ever confessed to me ever. no guys has ever been my friend, ever. ive friends around me in a relationship, married, getting proposals left and right. truly happy for them. i celebrated all of it with them. but idk. ig i get fomo. im studying a 5yr long degree. im about to graduate in less than a year. i shoudlve had atleat one confession, mannn. even my mother once asked me "why doesn't anyone like you?" idk man. i really dk. maybe im just not meant to be loved and i think im accepting that slowly.
ik people say all that fun stuff like just wait, have patient. the right perosn will come when you least expect it blah blah. that stuff was comforting in the beginning, but not anymore. kinda became desensitized to it.
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hey, no need to be so hard on yourself!!! seriously, you're not stupid or anything—just human. we all get that feeling of fomo when it seems like everyone else has their whole love life sorted out 🤷♂️... but comparing yourself to his exs or friends won't do any good. you had a genuine convo with him and that's something! maybe take small steps to talk to him more?? who knows where that could lead? and about never having dated anyone before, it's really not as uncommon as you think. don't rush into anything just because you feel you should've been in a relationship by now!!! stay true to yourself!
it seems like you're getting caught up in comparing yourself to others when it really won't do you any favors. your worth isn't determined by how many people are interested in you or the number of relationships you've had. instead of focusing on this guy or his past, maybe try shifting that energy into understanding what you truly want and need from a relationship, if that's even something you're interested in right now. on another note, opening up communication with guys shouldn't be as daunting as it sounds. start seeing them as just people—try not too overthink interactions based on gender dynamics. engaging naturally can often lead to surprising connections without the added pressure!
Hey there! 😊 You're definitely not alone in feeling like you're on the outside looking in when it comes to love. But lemme tell you, life's not a race or a checklist of "should haves." I remember when I was at uni—everyone seemed to be coupling up while I was still figuring out what I wanted from life and relationships. It felt isolating at times, but I realized that each of us has our own unique journey. Maybe this is your time to focus on other things, like friendships or passions that bring you joy. And hey, when it comes to talking to guys, just try being yourself and see where it takes you—it might lead to some cool friendships or even something more without all the pressure!
girl, i totally feel you on this; that feeling of not being enough is such a bitch to deal with.
your story is a bit like "the grass is always greener on the other side" situation; comparing yourself to his exes or friends isn't gonna help you find happiness. it's easy to get caught up in all of that but honestly, have you ever thought about what truly makes you happy outside of relationships? maybe focusing on discovering things that bring joy without involving others could lead to a more fulfilling path for now; and by the way, when your mom asked that question—did that make you reassess how you view yourself or just add more pressure? sometimes these questions reflect societal norms rather than personal worth.
It's interesting how societal pressures can often lead us to believe that love and relationships are milestones we must achieve by a certain age!!
Hey, I totally get where you're coming from! It's tough to feel like everyone else is moving forward in their love lives while you're standing still. I once felt the same; during my last year of college, it seemed like everyone was coupling up and sharing all these "firsts," but I was just doing my own thing and honestly feeling a bit lost. Remember that life isn't always about being in a relationship—sometimes it's about building awesome friendships, creating memories on your own terms, or pursuing goals that mean a lot to you. Plus, the right person has a way of showing up when you’re least expecting it, kinda like those surprise plot twists in movies. So keep embracing who you are and what makes you unique; after all, as Sinatra would say, "The best is yet to come"...
ever considered that the idealized view of a relationship might be more influenced by societal expectations than personal desire?
I totally get where you're coming from, but thinking you're not meant to be loved is pretty harsh on yourself; maybe it's more about timing and circumstance than personal worth. From what you've shared, it sounds like you have meaningful friendships and connections already, which is a solid foundation. Sometimes love sneaks up when you're busy living life—engage with people without forcing anything romantic, and who knows? You might find something meaningful right around the corner.
I believe finding solace in self-love could illuminate a more peaceful path!
It sounds like you're in a really introspective phase, which is actually a great place to be. Have you thought about using this time to build confidence and explore what truly matters to you? It seems like you have a supportive group of friends who value your presence enough to invite you to their weddings—that's a testament to the positive impact you have on others; 😊 Perhaps focusing on these existing friendships could help shift some of that comparison-driven frustration. I'm curious, though—are there any hobbies or activities that make you feel empowered or reconnect with yourself outside of the love aspect?
honestly, i get where you're coming from—a lot of people feel they need a significant other to complete their lives, but that's not always true. the reality is relationships aren’t a guaranteed path to happiness; i've seen people diving into them and still feeling lonely or unfulfilled; maybe it's worth exploring what it means to feel valued and loved outside of romantic connections first 🤷♂️ building that sense of self-worth could make any future relationship more rewarding. plus, society puts this arbitrary timeline on when you should have certain milestones—it's all bs if you ask me. finding contentment solo might just open unexpected doors!
Your feelings remind me of a concept in literature called "unrequited love," where one party loves but is never reciprocated. It feels soul-crushing and is not easy to overcome; however, it's essential to remember that worth isn't defined by if someone likes you back or not. Just like in the song "I Can't Make You Love Me," sometimes you have to acknowledge what can't be controlled and focus on what can be. I used to believe my value depended on someone else's appreciation, until I realized life has so much more to offer—like achieving personal milestones or finding happiness in solitude while building new skills 🌱.
man, i feel you; it's like everyone else has this secret playbook for life and love that we just didn't get!