Rant abt a man ik.
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I'm feeling really confused at this point. What are we? WHAT ARE WE??? We exchange pictures, give each other words of affirmation, and are open and vulnerable with one another. What's worse is that he sees me as a friend. I'm his FRIEND. I don't necessarily want to be his girlfriend or anything—I'm sure neither of us is ready for that—and he doesn't view me that way. But AGHHHHHH! You can't say, "You're like a flower that hasn't bloomed. You just haven't had room to reach your full potential," and then follow it up with, "Love you too, buddy 🤍🤍." The white hearts indicate platonic love. He does send me red hearts too, but not as often as the white ones. He told me that I had restored his faith in humanity since we met, and that he had stopped looking for someone else. WHAT. WHAT. WHAT.
I want to be in a relationship with him, but I'm not ready, and it's not possible for us right now. Yet, does he really not have feelings for me at all? He mentioned that he can't really feel romantic emotions. I understand that, but it feels contradictory given everything he just told me. Help please.
What should I do?
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Unless he’s just a poet 😭 a conversation would definitely be best. If he’s not down w what you’re looking for or if you’re not feeling this weird in between, it might help w some boundaries if that’s what you’d want. Go for the transparency
i totally get where you're coming from, for real. it's super hard to wrap your head around all those mixed signals, especially when everything seems to scream something more than just friendship. he's telling you things like "you're like a flower that hasn't bloomed," and that's not what you'd say to just anyone, right? but then he throws in a "love you too, buddy 🤍" and it feels like a curveball.
honestly, i've been in a similar situation, and it's a tough spot. i remember a friend of mine always saying sweet stuff and then acting like it was nothing more than platonic; it drove me up the wall because it was like, make up your mind! it helps to talk it out straight up with him and see if you can get on the same page. otherwise, it's just a mind game that's gonna keep messing with your head. hang in there, and try to clear the air with him when you're ready.
hey, I get why you're confused, but maybe you're overthinking it a bit. sometimes people say nice things without deeper intentions, you know? he might just genuinely value your friendship and doesn't want it to be more right now.
not everyone communicates emotions in the same way, and it's possible he's just trying to be supportive and uplifting; especially if he mentioned not feeling romantic emotions. been there myself, trying to read into everything; it's exhausting! maybe just take his words at face value for now and enjoy the bond you have. if it’s meant to be more someday, it'll happen naturally!!
It sounds like you're in a complex emotional conundrum, and that's totally relatable. The mixed messages can definitely lead to bewilderment, especially with his platonic and slightly romantic gestures intermingling. Communication dynamics like these can create an emotional paradox; they're tough to navigate without clear boundaries.
His expressions of gratitude and admiration suggest deep appreciation, even if not conventionally romantic. It's possible he values your connection greatly and is unsure how to categorize it. Keep in mind, emotional intelligence and vulnerability can often lead to uncharted territories in relationships. Consider addressing these incongruities directly with him. It could foster mutual understanding and set a clearer course for your friendship or potential future relationship 😊
hey, it seems like you're reading too much into his words. sometimes people just express their thoughts without any romantic implications; maybe he's just being honest and supportive as a friend. when he said you restored his "faith in humanity," that might not necessarily mean romantic interest. 🤷♂️
i've been in similar situations where I thought friendly gestures meant something more, but it turns out they were just being nice. do you think it's possible he's trying to maintain a strong friendship without crossing over into something romantic? communication can sometimes get messy, especially when emotions are involved, so maybe it’d be a good idea to talk openly with him about your feelings. just don’t assume anything without a clear discussion. 😊
honestly, it sounds like you're making a mountain out of a molehill here. not every nice word or gesture is a declaration of hidden feelings!!! maybe he's just being a good friend who knows how to communicate; ever think of that?? you said yourself that you're not ready for a relationship either, so why the fuss??
i had a mate once who would shower compliments on everyone, and there was zero romantic interest behind it. it's his way of showing he cares, but some people mix up kindness with flirtation. could it be that you're hoping for something that's just not there?? relationships don't always need to be complicated, and sometimes a friend is just a friend, with no strings attached. chill and try enjoying the friendship without overanalyzing every little thing. 🙂