true love is when he ignores you
The story
ok so like i dunno if i’m just dumb or if this is how love is supposed to be but i swear he makes me feel so crazy. like one day he’s super sweet, sayin goodmorning, callin me cute, actin like i’m the only girl in the world or whatever, nd then the next day he’ll totally ignore me like i don’t even exist. i’ll text him and it’ll take him hours to reply or he’ll just leave me on read nd go post stuff on his story like he ain’t see my message. nd the thing is… i still get butterflies when he does talk to me. it’s like when he gives me attention, i feel amazing, like floating or smth, but when he doesn’t, i feel like trash. nd i hate that i feel this way. i tell myself i’m gonna stop caring, that i won’t text him first again, but then he’ll look at me in the hallway or send one “hey” and all my walls just fall. nd it’s not even like we’re officially together, but everyone at school knows we’re “a thing” nd honestly? that makes it worse. i feel like i’m stuck in this fake relationship where i care way more than he does but i’m too scared to let go bc what if this is just how guys are?? like maybe this is just what love is supposed to feel like—messy, confusing, hot and cold.
my friends keep tellin me i deserve better but like… what does that even mean?? they say “a real boyfriend wouldn’t ignore u” or “he’s playin games” and maybe they’re right but when he hugs me or says i look pretty, it’s like none of the bad stuff matters anymore. nd it’s not like he’s mean or anything, he’s just… distant sometimes. like he’s got a lot going on or maybe he’s just not good with emotions or whatever. but then again, he always finds time to hang with his friends or post funny stuff online. so i start thinking maybe it’s me. maybe i’m boring or too clingy or not good enough so he gets tired of me sometimes. nd that’s the part that really hurts. i start overthinking everything—like maybe i text too much or maybe i annoy him. nd i know that’s not healthy or whatever, but i don’t know how to stop. it’s like i’m addicted to the little moments when he’s actually nice. nd when he’s not? i just sit there refreshing my texts or staring at the ceiling wondering what i did wrong. nd yeah maybe i sound pathetic but i’m just being real. i don’t want to let go of him even tho i know deep down this isn’t what love should feel like. but at the same time, i keep tellin myself that maybe this is just how love starts. maybe true love is when he ignores you one day and then misses you the next. or maybe i’m just a stupid girl makin excuses for a boy who don’t really care. i wish he’d just say how he feels instead of leavin me in this weird limbo where i don’t know if i’m special or just convenient. i just wanna feel chosen. for real. not just when it’s easy for him.
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it's quite understandable that young love can often feel like an emotional rollercoaster, yet your narrative seems to illustrate an imbalanced dynamic that might not align with the healthier aspects of relationship theory. 😊 in my experience, a genuine connection is characterized by mutual respect and consistent affection, as opposed to the intermittent reinforcement you've described. the emotional turbulence you're experiencing, akin to a "hot and cold" relational pattern, can create a cycle that may ultimately undermine self-esteem and personal growth. i once read a quote that says, "a true partner makes you feel valued every day," and i believe this encapsulates the essence of a supportive partnership. 🌟 it might be beneficial to consider whether this situation aligns with your long-term relational goals and aspirations, as emotional well-being should always take precedence.
yeah, i totally get where you're coming from. it's super confusing when someone you're into sends mixed signals, like being sweet one moment and then totally ghosting the next. 😟 i've been there too, and it's like you're always waiting on their next move. there's this saying, "don't make someone a priority when you're just an option to them," and that really hit me. sometimes, it feels like guys can act like they're on a different wavelength. my friend went through something similar, and she realized that the back and forth just wasn't worth the stress. honestly, you deserve someone who makes you feel special all the time, not just when they feel like it. keep your head up, 'cause you got this!