Thought I would be the house full of kids

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MightyVioletMetalSaladTongsInStockholmWithAnxiety
Published on
Wednesday, 18 December 2024
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The story

I should start by saying I have kids. I am extremely grateful for that. Tonight I’m just thinking about all the stuff I’ve sat on for 3+ years from my babies because I pictured myself so actively watching other peoples kids and raising them with my own. But no one asks me to babysit or brings their kids here. Just makes me sad. I have a bottle & sippy, snack cups, a high chair, a play chair, a bouncer, a play pen, a changing mattress, a bassinet, an extra car seat even. Literally “just in case” and there’s never an “in case” from the people in my circle. I’ve always been the “lady that’s good with kids” my entire adult life.. I worked with kids for years before changing careers. People used to ask me to babysit constantly before I had my own. It’s just weird being at this point and always picturing myself being the mom with all the kids at her house but all the kids are just mine. I know it’s probably something stupid to be sad about, but I can’t help it when I see the stuff in the back of the cabinet. I know people probably just assume I don't want more kids here on top of my 3. I have twins in preschool and my oldest is less than 2 years older… but I wish they would just ask anyway.



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SacredGoldLightningDresserInBrasiliaWithAnticipation 12d ago

Indeed, the first idea I have when reading you is that people must surely tell themselves that they do not want to disturb you with children in addition! 😊


Maybe think about specifying to those around you that you are still available as before?

Author 12d ago

I do. Another part of the problem is a lot of my circle has moved, not extremely far away, but 30min-1hr30min away. I’m no longer the convenient option for them.

SacredGoldLightningDresserInBrasiliaWithAnticipation
12d ago

Indeed, that could explain! 😅

SnappyBrickFireShrubInCopenhagenWithShame 12d ago

people might think you're "overstimulated" already with your own three little ones. the term "work-life balance" comes to mind... maybe folks assume you need some downtime???

Author 12d ago

I do get overstimulated with my own, but other peoples kids are different.. it’s hard to explain. Mine know every personalized button to push lol But I have all the patience in the world for someone else’s baby. I also should clarify I am not an every day option for a sitter.. but date night? Your sitter is sick? You have a doctors appointment? That’s me! I only work 3 days a week. Instead of baby fever I think I have auntie fever honestly.