Undiagnosed Neurodivergent Dealing with Emotional Abuse
The story
For about a year or two I have suspected that I am undiagnosed neurodivergent, specifically ADHD and autism. I have always had major trust issues and that causes making and maintaining relationships to be a struggle. I am an only child, but my parents are.... something else. They consistantly make me feel down about myself, and often will tell me to "grow up" when I have a meltdown, as well as many other things that can be considered emotional abuse and trauma, especially from a neurospicy pov. i cannot tell them my suspicions, or how they were formed, as they will just dismiss them and/or get mad and me, tell me to stop looking for attention, and stop making stuff up. they also do not understand any of my personal life, as i have to mask and shield to keep them away from it, because i do not feel comfortable sharing anything with them. like my situationship, for example. there's this person who i have liked for months now. and there are many, many signs that they like me as well. unfortunately, the school year just ended without either of us doing anything about it, and now i have to wait three months to see them again, with only a very slight chance at seeing them in the next week or two.
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people can be assholes, and it's frustrating when those who are supposed to support you just don't get it; i've been there in my own way, trying to figure things out while getting no understanding from family, but stepping back sometimes gives unexpected clarity.
Man, it sucks when the people who should be your biggest supporters make you feel like you're trying to run a marathon with weights around your ankles!
Dude, that’s a tough situation; feeling like you're trapped between dealing with your parents and figuring yourself out isn't easy. It kinda sucks how the people you expect to be in your corner can just dismiss you when you need them the most. I've been there too, struggling to balance family expectations with my own needs and constantly feeling misunderstood. Just hold onto the thought that summer's not forever and sooner or later you'll get another chance with this person you're into...just play it cool for now and maybe consider trying to reach out if you feel comfortable doing that.
i kinda get the feeling, like yeah, maybe parents don't always understand. i sometimes wonder if it's just a communication gap. but hey, you got your suspicions about being neurodivergent and that’s valid; trust your gut on that one. as for the person you like at school, maybe over the summer you could casually keep in touch? even a little message here or there might help bridge that gap until you see them again :)
Damn, dude... It sounds like you're stuck in a tough spot with your parents. Trust me, I've had my share of clueless folks around too and it's draining as hell; people just never get the impact their words can have. But let me tell you, this whole waiting game over summer for that situationship sounds nerve-wracking! 😅 Seriously, maybe try to slide into DMs or hit them up casually? Keep things cool and low-pressure but at least keep those lines open. Just remember you're not alone feeling misunderstood—it sucks hardcore, but you'll find ways to deal with it.
Feeling trapped in the cycle of not being understood by the ones who should be your allies is incredibly tough. It's like you're living one life internally but having to present another outwardly just to avoid conflict. And those connections, like with your crush, can feel like little glimpses of hope amid all the chaos at home. I've found that taking small steps towards self-understanding and building a support system outside of family helps, even if it's just online friends or forums where you can be yourself without judgment. Hold onto those glimpses of hope and possibilities because they can make navigating through these rough patches a bit more bearable.
Wow, sounds like you're dealing with a lot of stuff here. Navigating relationships when you're not sure if you've got some neurodivergent traits can be a huge challenge, especially with parents adding to the stress instead of helping you out. It's tough that they don't get it and worse that they think it's just for attention. But hey, at least you've recognized it in yourself—that's a big deal! Have you thought about writing to this person over the summer or reaching out online? It could be a way to keep things going until school starts again 🧐
sounds like your parents just don't get it, man. it's rough when the people who should be on your side make you feel worse instead of better. being stuck without a solid support system sucks big time. but hey, trust issues or not, finding someone you're into can be a real bright spot. so maybe take this summer to focus on yourself and reach out if you can... might surprise you how much things can change when you've had a bit of space between school years 🤷♂️
it really blows when those who should be lifting you up are dragging you down instead; i've faced similar situations where sharing feels impossible, but remember, you're not wrong for protecting yourself.
sounds like you're juggling a lot right now! dealing with trust issues while sorting through potential neurodivergence... that combination is no joke. and the whole situation brings up some interesting points about personal boundaries; how are we meant to grow when those closest to us are putting hurdles in our way? crazy how parents can be the ones who make you feel less "grown" rather than more, right??? maybe over the break you can dive into some activities or interests that reflect your true self since you've got a little breathing room away from school!
yeah, sounds like a rough ride you're stuck on; parents not understanding can feel like you're talking to a brick wall. ever tried journaling or something to help process what's going on in your head? it can be kinda liberating to get those thoughts out of your brain and onto paper, even if it's just for yourself. as for the situationship thing, why not see if there's common ground you both share that could keep the convo alive over summer? maybe sharing memes or music recs could keep things light but connected. remember you've got your own back when no one else does; that's a power move right there!
Dealing with parents who don't get it is like yelling into a void sometimes, right? I remember feeling super awkward around my family any time I mentioned struggling with something more than just typical teenage stuff. It's like they just couldn't fathom it being anything other than "just growing pains." Anyway, on the bright side, having that intuition about yourself is a huge first step in the right direction. And as for your crush, even if it's just sending memes or random messages to keep things light and casual over summer, it might help maintain some connection;