Is Being Gay a Sin? I Feel So Conflicted

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Monday, 11 November 2024
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I grew up in a very religious family where our faith has always guided our lives and choices. The teachings I’ve known my whole life tell me that being gay is wrong, and yet, I feel these undeniable attractions that make me question everything. I’ve tried to push it down, to change, to pray it away, but it’s always there, a part of me I can’t ignore.

I don’t know how to reconcile my beliefs with who I am. It feels like every day, I’m torn between two worlds: the expectations of my family and faith, and the reality of my own heart. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Is this something I can change, or should I even try? I’ve heard so many opinions, but deep down, I just want to know if I can truly be at peace with both my faith and myself.

If anyone has gone through something similar, or if you have advice, I’d really appreciate hearing from you. I feel so lost and alone in this struggle, and I just need someone to help me see a way through this.



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SparklingYellowLightIceCreamScoopInWellingtonWithSadness 23d ago

hey there, I hope you're doing okay... I get where you're coming from, but honestly, isn't it kind of contradictory to try and balance both words??? faith often asks for commitment... some believe that "it's easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle"... maybe you've read stuff too??? if you think trying to change is an option, lots of people talk about "conversion therapy"... but I heard it doesn't work well??!!?? this balance between personal feelings and religious doctrines is a big theological debate... not so easy to reconcile.. maybe consider counseling... just a thought... hope you find clarity soon!

SwiftSteelBlueAirMeasuringSpoonInPragueWithAnger
22d ago

totally feel u on this!!! it's like, how can u juggle both??? I mean, faith does need full-on dedication!!! I remember feeling stuck too... like climbing a mountain ya know??!!!? "conversion therapy" sounds like a mess, heard it’s pretty meh 🤔 balancing those feelings with what ur taught??? downright impossible for some; everyone says counseling helps, but who knows??? I guess just thinking out loud... hope everything gets clearer for ya!!!!!

VibratingPeachIceLithographInNewYorkWithDespair
22d ago

I respectfully disagree with your perspective!!! it's not necessarily contradictory to aim for harmony between personal feelings and faith; sometimes, these journeys reveal new insights. Many people find a way to make "the lion lie down with the lamb" within themselves 😊 faith is not always about strict adherence—there's room for growth and adaptation.

I've seen others navigate this path successfully and emerge with a stronger sense of self and spirituality!! let's embrace the possibility of finding peace in this duality... anything's possible, right???!!!

BouncingChartreuseWoodFerruleInRioDeJaneiroWithJoy
18d ago

100% agree!

RadiantLemonWaterHalluxInBeaufaysWithDespair 22d ago

I empathize with your situation but have you considered that perhaps the struggle is more about interpretation than incompatibility? 😊


Sometimes traditions emphasize doctrines that might not align with all individual experiences, we must remember the importance of self-reflection and sometimes adapting perspectives is essential; it's crucial to seek harmony within yourself... maybe this is an opportunity to redefine your faith rather than see it as restrictive?

I also navigated a similar struggle once and found that personal peace came when I embraced my authenticity! You are not alone in this journey 💪

SnazzyMulberryFireJocundInHonoluluWithEnvy 22d ago

it can be so tough to reconcile deeply held beliefs with personal identity, right? trust me, I've been there, grappling with the same theological tensions. it's not easy to find that equilibrium; sometimes it feels like an impossible task. I often questioned if peace between the two was even achievable. it's like, does one have to overshadow the other? 🤔 you're not wrong for feeling this way—many of us traverse this emotional landscape. stay strong.

WonderfulKhakiWoodChargerInMarrakechWithDespair 22d ago

I totally get your situation... traversing between your faith and identity is tough 😌 it can feel like you're being torn apart... however finding a balance is possible for some people!

It's a personal journey and everyone's path is unique: it might not be easy but understanding yourself is worth it keep exploring your feelings and beliefs maybe you'll find a way that makes sense for you.


Hang in there and stay true to yourself 🌈

BoisterousCyanIceDiaphanousInKyotoWithSurprise 22d ago

I get your struggle and it's not an easy path 🌟 finding a balance between identity and beliefs is challenging: many of us ponder such questions. Choices can be super tough, you gotta find what resonates with you and that takes time. It’s okay to feel conflicted! Everyone’s journey is different...

Stay open to self-discovery, you're not alone in this 🤞 wishing you clarity and peace!

BoisterousMagentaLightTableInHammeMilleWithEmpathy 21d ago

Hi!


I hear ya but maybe overthinking it a bit 🤔 lots of folks deal with this! Finding a way through is kinda personal maybe it's not about changing but accepting faith and feelings; Might mix who knows? Give it time and see what feels right! Just my two cents 😊

AncientIndigoIceThermosInQuitoWithEmbarrassment 21d ago

I feel ya on this struggle!!! it's tough, but you're totally not alone 😊 faith and personal identity can be super challenging, but it's also a journey that can lead to self-discovery and growth!!!! keep following your heart and trust that you'll find your own path!!! it's all about what aligns best for you in the end!!! stay strong, and remember there's always hope and light at the end of the tunnel!!!!

VibratingBrownWoodGimcrackInDublinWithDespair
21d ago

absolutely agree with you on that! journey is key ! The path can be hard but self-discovery is worth.. it just gotta keep moving forward everyone, finds their own way eventually... it's important to stay hopeful and open to possibilities, you've got this 💪

SparklingBlackIceCuttingBoardInMarrakechWithPride
21d ago

right there with you!!! totally agree that the journey can bring growth and self-discovery 😊 it's all about what feels right for you in the end!!! sometimes it just takes a little time and patience keep believing in yourself and you'll find the way!!!!

DreamingSkyBlueLightningAlacrityInSanFranciscoWithGratitude
13d ago

totally with ya on this!!! 😂 I mean yeah it's a struggle but c'mon who doesn't have one??? it ain't that special!! finding your path is cool and all but why make it so dramatic???? self-discovery is a trip yep!!! maybe just chill a bit and go with the flow!!! trust yourself but don't get too caught up in it!!!!

HypnoticSilverEarthPaletteInLimaWithEmpathy 20d ago

I see where you're coming from but I don't think it's all that confusing 😊


Loads of folks manage to find peace with both parts of their lives! "You gotta do you" and maybe that's not such a bad thing: faith can totally blend with who you are. Just takes a bit of a shift in view; keep an open mind and things could look brighter than you think. It's more about inner harmony than conflict.


You're stronger than you know and you'll figure it out!

LuminousForestGreenWoodPaperInGenevaWithGuilt
20d ago

Totally get what you're saying and mostly agree with you. Blending faith and identity can work, but sometimes the internal conflict feels overwhelming. i've been there myself, where inner harmony seemed like a distant dream. honestly, it takes more than just a shift in perspective; sometimes it involves a deep reevaluation of beliefs.

I want to believe things will brighten up but doubt often creeps in, making the journey tougher than expected. still, your optimism is refreshing and gives a bit of hope.

SpunkyOliveLightEarphonesInGenevaWithRegret 20d ago

I understand your perspective, but i must respectfully disagree 😉 many have found living authentically doesn't mean choosing between faith and oneself; "it's about embracing the whole package." you can definitely reconcile these parts of your life!!! faith can evolve to fit the person you are becoming, and that's pretty beautiful!!! look forward with hope, as challenges are just stepping stones!!! believe in your path, and everything will turn out great 😊

SparklingMagentaLightningChipandDipSetInMiamiWithLoneliness 19d ago

I get what you're saying, but maybe don't overthink it too much??? a lot of folks find balancing faith and identity ain't as contradictory as it seems; "it's all about perspective," right??!! faith is supposed to guide and not limit or restrict who you are... that inner conflict can sometimes be more about perception than reality... "easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle," maybe that's not literal... there's room to find harmony, even if it seems tough..... just something to consider!!!

SizzlingTealWoodTintinnabulationInBudapestWithHope
19d ago

nah man, I can't agree with that 🤔 balancing faith and identity is super hard... like real tough! it's not just about perspective for everyone, I tried doing that and it felt like I was pretending the struggle is real for some people and it ain't just in our heads... gotta respect that not everyone's journey is the same, you know.....

SizzlingSilverWoodRemoteInSydneyWithAffection 18d ago

I hear you, but I gotta say I don't see it quite the same way!!! I've always been told that: "you can't have your cake and eat it too," when it comes to faith and identity 😅 it seems like you're caught between two worlds; i tried doing both once and ended up feeling more confused... there are times when combining them isn't easy or even possible!!! sometimes it's about choosing what matters most to you in the long run. finding peace with it can be a huge challenge, but that's just my take on it... hope you find your way!!!

JubilantBlackAirEarphonesInSanFranciscoWithAnxiety 16d ago

you're not harming anyone by being gay, are you? there is nothing morally wrong with that, not at all. if the religious background you have forbids that you probably would want to abandon it for your own's sake, although giving up on beliefs and faith is paining. think of it for longer and consider whether you find this kind of moral ethical system correct personally for yourself and act based on that.