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Hi! I'm Cara. so
A year ago, i became friends with this girl named.. lets just call her Ashlie. SO just for context, I'm athiest/humanist. She is just regular latter day saint. Ashlie and I share a ton of classes, and are in the same social group. Ash has been subtly saying these... comments. for example, I was out with Jaylen, Luna, and Ash. Literally at Subway(the sandwich store) and it's 90 something degrees. Luna compliments my crop top and asks where it's from. I told her and then Ash goes, "Those clothes provoke lust. we should stop by TJ MAXX to get you a new shirt." she said that with dead seriousness btw .Jaylen gives Ashlie a look to shut up, sensing I'm irritated. Jaylen and Luna are Christian also, but not hardcore. Luna goes, "Ash, it's 90 degrees, why do you care what Cara's wearing?" Ash looked awkwardly scandalized. I had finally had enough of the past 6 months of these small comments snowballing into this. "Ashlie, you know I'm not Christian. I get you're saying you're helping, but you're just being overbearing. If you have such a big reaction to my clothes, why are you still here? And let me point out that Luna and Jaylen are in the same branch of Christianity and you out of them three are the only one questioning my outfit." Deadass I dunno if I should remain friends with her or act distant. She is much more popular with people and could easily turn my reputation to shit.
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hey cara, sounds like a tough situation you’re in; i get where you're coming from. it’s hard when someone keeps making those kinds of comments. maybe talk to her one-on-one and see if she can understand your perspective? people don’t always get how their words come across. good luck!
Hi Cara! 🌟 It sounds like you've handled the situation with Ashlie quite gracefully so far. It's not easy when one person's beliefs start to encroach on another's personal choices, especially regarding something as personal as clothing. 🤔 While it's important to stand your ground and maintain your identity, sometimes giving a bit of space can help both parties cool down and reflect. Maybe consider setting boundaries gently? Remember, "The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion." Stay true to yourself and keep those positive vibes going! 🌈
sounds like ash is leveraging her moral superiority complex to enforce dress code compliance 🤨; how did she justify those remarks without acknowledging they're coming from a place of judgment?