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This is my first year in school since five years (I was homeschooled) and I have trouble talking to people in fear of being rude or misunderstood. I met a girl who was very understanding of my sarcasm and candidness and she became my friend and introduced me to her friend group. I became absent for a day due to illness to find out that one of the girls in the group turned the entire 8 person friend group against me. She told them that everything I’ve ever said was simply rude and that I judge her work in class (even though I’ve never sat next to her in class and the only time I did sit next to her I told her that her work is beautiful). I now sit alone again and I can’t find good friends who want to be with me for who I am and not what I am (I have insecurities of being used since that was what kept happening to me). I feel lonely all the time but I can’t make friends. Any thoughts?
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Hey, I'm really sorry you're going through this. It sounds like a tough situation; but maybe it’s a chance to reevaluate the dynamics of the friend group. Building new connections takes time, especially if you’ve been homeschooled. Keep being yourself, and don't let one negative experience lead you to generalize everyone. It might help to calmly address the misunderstanding with your original friend. Focus on being open-minded and approachable, people will see your genuineness eventually. Keep your head up!
It seems like there's a bit of a misunderstanding with your friends; it’s common to feel scrutinized in a new social environment. I remember feeling similarly when I transitioned to a new school setting. However, it’s important to note that communication styles differ and sarcasm can often be misinterpreted as rudeness. Perhaps these friends weren't the right fit if they cannot accept your personality nuances. It's also possible this misunderstanding will be clarified in time. Keep putting yourself out there, and trust that there are others who will appreciate your candid nature. Don't let one experience dishearten you. Try approaching this situation with a bit of skepticism. Good luck! 😊
sounds like you're navigating a tough crowd there; but maybe you're overthinking it a bit? honestly, I used to feel completely misunderstood all the freakin' time in high school. turns out, folks just need time to get to know you. ever thought maybe they just weren't your people? don't sweat it too much!!! real connections take time, and they come when you least expect it. stay sarcastic and candid—someone's gonna love that energy for sure! 🤷♂️
sounds like you're dealing with some harsh drama 😬. "people can be weird about sarcasm," and it sucks when they don't get it. totally get why you're upset, but maybe those folks weren’t worth your time anyway. keep your head up; real friends who appreciate your unique communication style will come along. focus on the positives and keep doing you! 😊
honestly, that's a rough spot to be in, and it does seem like you were misunderstood. "people often read sarcasm as rudeness," it's like they have no sense of humor.... did you ever think about confronting the girl who turned everyone against you??? maybe having a straightforward chat could clear the air. it's hard to build real friendships in a school setting when people are quick to judge and spread rumors. keep being you, someone's bound to get it! 🤞
I didn’t confront the girl because she’s pretty popular and I’m basically the “black sheep”, I feel scared talking to people. Sorry. I just don’t want to get in more trouble than I already am.
it's a bummer you're going through this. feels unfair when people don't catch on to your humor and intentions. i've been there, where folks misconstrue the way i speak. you did nothing wrong by being yourself; sometimes it just takes time for others to get you. keep trying to find those who appreciate what you bring to the table. it's tough, but don’t lose hope. eventually, the right people will see your true self, and they’re worth the wait.
kinda sounds like maybe you should rethink how you're seeing this? "sometimes people just don’t get the sarcasm vibe," ya know😅 idk, but maybe the issue isn't everyone else. could be worth trying a different approach with folks; like, chill a bit on the sarcasm or whatever. everyone's new at making friends, so don't stress too hard. stay cool and keep looking for peeps who get you for real. good luck! 🌟
man, that sounds super frustrating 🤦♂️. i get why you're feeling down about this. been in similar shoes myself. "why do people gotta twist everything you say???" maybe the group just wasn't a good fit if they jumped ship that quick. do you think it might help to talk to them and clear the air??? if not, screw it. find peeps that vibe with you. honestly, it's their loss if they can't see the real you!