Teacher venting right over our heads.

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GentleCrimsonMetalUmbrellaInLagosWithJealousy
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Saturday, 15 February 2025
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(18, job program student)

My horticulture teacher has been sharing emotional things that we don't need to hear about, and it's been pissing me off and making me uncomfortable. It's not directly at us, it's over our heads and to the assistant that she's comfortable with, but she says things like:

"Does a blow to your self-esteem,"

"Nothings keeping me here."

Among other things she'd openly vent about that would give me a weird gut feeling. Catering to an adult's emotions has been emotionally triggering for me (30s or 40s+ specifically). I don't say anything to give advice to her or make her feel better whatsoever, I'm more inclined to tell her to STFU. She wouldn't go out in full paragraphs, just a sentence or a few words.

I've thought about reporting it, but I value the good relationship I have w/ her. And it would make things awkward and I feel like it would heavily embarrass her - but she done something wrong, I don't really need to give a full shit.

I think I might say something directly to her to keep things to herself, like "Can you keep these things to yourself?" I'd see it at something far better and quicker.

I've already had an incident where an assistant (who doesn't cater to me anymore) said that whenever I left early, they don't get paid as much in a day. I had a full-blown, horrible moral OCD panic attack that same night. He got scolded by 3 people (an ex-worker and 2 staff) when the news broke out, possibly even more

I'm not responsible for their feelings. I'm not responsible for their paychecks. I'm not responsible for their consequences that are set against them. I've been doing my best to reassure myself of that.

The best outcome is that she never vents in class again and I don't need to say a thing.




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MightyKhakiWoodMusicPlayerInGenevaWithContentment 6d ago

yeah dude totally get where you're coming from it's super annoying when teachers unload their personal baggage on students just not cool 😒 makes the whole class vibe weird and awkward; honestly had a similar thing happen in high school with a teacher who couldn't stop talking about her breakup it's like we're there to learn not be therapists right??? if she can't keep it professional maybe she shouldn't be in that position!! feels like some adult just wanna make it all about them... you’re totally valid in feeling off about it! sometimes adults forget boundaries... so annoying to deal with! stay strong and do what you gotta do!

MajesticAmberLightEspressoMachineInNiceWithAnger 6d ago

wow, that’s weird 🙃

SurrealMidnightBlueEarthSarcophagusInSeoulWithDespair 5d ago

it's important to feel comfortable in your educational environment: when a teacher shares too much personal information it can create an awkward atmosphere in the classroom!