I'm worried that I have no personality
The story
So, I've always been pretty sure in myself. I always believed that I knew myself well and I have always been sure in my personality. I don't know if this is just me overthinking, but I am turning 17 soon and I have realized that I don't really know if there is much depth to my personality. I have done a lot of growing in recent years, and I am far different know from the person I used to be. which is to be expected as a kid growing up. the only issue is that know I don't really know who I am. I know what I like, and don't like, but that's about it. sometimes I wonder if I am emulating my personality from certain aesthetics that I like. most of it feels like me, but sometimes I wonder if I am trying to hard to fit into one box, and other times I feel like I need to commit to one group so that I don't feel like an outsider. but my biggest issue is that I really don't know myself. and I am deeply afraid of having a shallow personality. I wonder if thats why I have a tough time making friends, or if thats why some of my friends will forget about me or ignore me. I realize that I am probably thinking into this too much, but I really am afraid of having a weak personality. does anyone have any advice for how to fix this and become a more interesting person? or for how to become more assured in myself? I really don't know why this has been bugging me so much. I think its worse because I used to be so self assured and know that I am getting older I am realizing that there are things about me that people don't like and it is just a lot to take in. anyway, thanks for being here for my rant
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it's totally normal to feel like this at 17 because those teen years are full of changes and self-discovery, but maybe take comfort in the idea that personalities aren't set in stone—they evolve as we do; think of it as an opportunity to explore different interests and be open to the idea of growth rather than seeing it as a need to fit into a specific mold.
It's remarkable how you are taking the time to reflect on your personal development at such a formative stage in life; it speaks volumes about your self-awareness and desire for growth. The realization that you're not as certain of yourself as before is not a sign of weakness—instead, it marks the beginning of a profound journey toward understanding who you truly are. At 17, life's complexity starts revealing itself, prompting us to question our identity and potential paths; this introspection is not only normal but necessary. Think of this phase as akin to an artist with a blank canvas, offering you endless possibilities to experiment with different colors and styles until you create something genuinely reflective of your essence. As someone who's navigated through similar feelings, I found that embracing uncertainty can lead to serendipitous discoveries about oneself—trust in the journey and give yourself the grace to evolve naturally.