Bridal Woes: When a Friendship Meets an End
The story
My university buddy recently got hitched, and I was supposed to stand by her side as a bridesmaid. We last met at her engagement celebration about a year ago. Regrettably, since then, she's been a pretty terrible companion, fully engrossed in her wedding plans and consistently neglecting our friendship. Even though initially we chatted about her wedding, she soon started ignoring my messages. Whenever I tried opening up about my own struggles, she responded cruelly and was overwhelmingly obsessed with her role as the bride. As a result of her behavior and me facing ongoing health issues, I grew distant and decided against maintaining the friendship after the wedding festivities concluded.
When our interactions resumed, it was purely for bridesmaid duties. Still dealing with health troubles, I hadn't yet bought my dress due to potential changes in my weight from new medications. Her reply was blunt, stressing the necessity to have it altered by June. Close to the wedding date, she suddenly demanded $200 for hair and makeup costs—expenses she hadn't previously discussed nor sought agreement on from any of us bridesmaids.
Feeling cornered and reconsidering the strained relationship, I decided against attending the wedding, blaming it on my health complications. She reacted selfishly, making the issue about herself and showing no concern for my well-being. Later, she demanded I pay the $200 for the services she booked without my consent. After a heated exchange, I agreed to settle the amount, even including an extra $150 for the venue costs she mentioned, hoping to end all communication thereafter.
Following five weeks of silence, she messaged me to inquire about my health. But soon, her tone shifted to expressing how hurt she was that I hadn't reached out during or after her wedding. I was stunned by her audacity. My grandmother advised ignoring her message, aligning with my intention to dissolve the friendship altogether.
Imagine if this situation unfolded on a reality show, the dramatic tension would be palpable! With cameras rolling, viewers would likely be split—some sympathizing with my health struggles and recognizing the bride's self-centered nature, while others might view my withdrawal from the wedding as a betrayal, sparking controversy and debates across social media platforms.
Am I wrong for wanting to end this friendship?
Should I respond to her message or end the friendship?
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Points of view
sounds like you've been dealing with a lot and this friend doesn't seem to be showing much understanding. it's important to take care of yourself, right? just stay true to yourself and keep moving forward.
wow, ur buddy sounds like a total bridezilla 🙄 defs not cool to ditch ur pal like that over some wedding drama. weddings can bring out the worst in people, huh? sucks that u had to deal with all that nonsense. if she's not being a good friend, why bother, you know? ur health comes first, always. i say, cut ties and move on, ain't worth the stress. bet u'll find better friends who actually care.
sorry but gotta disagree with you there 🤔 weddings are really stressful and maybe your friend was just super busy and caught up in it all u know how it gets sometimes she could've handled it better yeah but maybe ditching her wasn't the right move either seems like she tried to make up by asking about your health later being a bridesmaid means supporting your friend even when it's tough sometimes "friendship isn't about being perfect" so maybe give her another chance and talk it out