feels like i'm invisible in my own marriage. you know the irony? everyone thinks that we are this picture-perfect family. from the outside, it seems perfect... but on the inside, i am screaming to be seen and heard!!! married for three years with three kids keeps you busy, no doubt about that. it’s not just hard work: it's a constant juggling act of tasks that never seem to end!!! but still... does all this mean i should fade into the background?

having discussions without actually talking! that's what it's become with our dynamics lately. everytime I try to bring up an issue (about the kids or house) it gets brushed off or postponed. decisions are made without consulting me (i'm supposed to be a partner; not an afterthought). in business circles, there is something called 'actionable feedback'. we dissect problems and strategize solutions—but here at home where it really counts? it's met with deaf ears!

i've tried addressing how i feel invisible so often now that even attempting another discussion feels like talking to a brick wall. Rational conversations quickly morph into silent treatments; can't really survive on those emotional voids forever, can you? managing issues efficiently requires recognition of feelings...something we're severely lagging in.

isolation came as quite a surprise!! sometimes late at night as i scroll through social media (to avert having a pointless argument), i wonder if other spouses feel this way too?? why should elementary compassion be considered such a chore??

now, here’s where rudeness punches holes through your patience: why is taking my viewpoints seriously subject to time schedules??? missing pieces create uncomfortable living situations!!!! keeping things under wraps rather than discussing generates irreparable gaps... when will listening cease being optional and transform into absolute necessity?

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