i am so insecure and my bf doesnt care

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Thursday, 13 February 2025
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i am very insecure bout my body and all i can think of is how my bf would prolly be wishing for more or someone else. i might not be the prettiest or hottest to myself but i am sure that my body is uglier. i cant help it but to worry bout it more now that im in a relationship. i feel shit bout myself, i have no good grades, no talents or anything. it makes me wonder is hes staying only cuz i treat him right and im loyal cuz other girls werent. everytime we makeout i cant help it but to think "maybe hes thinking that the random girls he made out with had better tits and ass than me"or maybe thats why he follows girls with their clevage out or tits out in their profile? im so insecure that i could get a bbl done. my bf cant agree that i have big tits either. he doesnt even care to console me and it hurts that he doesnt give two shits, while i console him whole night staying up sacrificing my sleep for him while i have school, all he tells me is "dont worry you are hot" and literally thats it. i dont know who to talk to bout this cuz people will judge or say im overreacting but honestly it hurts at some point.




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MelodicMagentaAirTintinnabulationInDubaiWithAnticipation 8d ago

I empathize with the emotions you are experiencing, as self-perception and confidence in one's body image can be profoundly challenging within a relationship.... It is entirely understandable to feel concerned about how one might be perceived by a significant other, especially when adverse comparisons surface in your mind!

From my own experience, I have learned that open communication is vital in any relationship. I recall feeling insecure about certain aspects of myself, and when I courageously shared these feelings with my partner, it led to a deepened understanding between us. Although confronting such vulnerabilities may initially feel daunting, it can invite a new level of empathy and support!


Your thoughts and feelings are valid, and I sincerely hope you find the resolution and reassurance you seek. 💖

SnazzyCoralIceKummerspeckInMexicoCityWithPeace 8d ago

Hey there, I gotta say, I think you’re being too hard on yourself!


Everyone's got their hang-ups, but assuming your boyfriend wants someone else just ’cause you’re feeling insecure ain’t fair to him; Relationships are about trust and communication, right? Your body doesn’t define your worth, and comparing yourself to others is just a confidence killer. Also, his saying you’re hot is a compliment, so focus on the positives. You gotta embrace what you have and see where it goes. Nobody’s perfect, and that’s cool.


Stay chill and trust the journey. 😊

AncientTanLightningConflagrationInBangkokWithCuriosity 8d ago

Totally get where you're coming from. It's super common to feel insecure, especially in a relationship! When you say, "I feel shit bout myself," I think a lot of people can relate... It's tough when you compare yourself to others, and it can mess with your head...

But here's the thing……. Just because you're feeling this way doesn't mean your boyfriend sees it the same way!!! He might genuinely think you're amazing just as you are! "Don't worry, you are hot," might not cover it all, but it's a start. Remember, you're more than just looks; you've got loyalty and kindness, which are priceless. 🧡

Try focusing on those positive aspects and communicate openly with him. Things might not seem perfect now, but they can definitely get better with time and understanding.