I only see that I won't see her again.
The story
I feel like I'll never see her again, and it seems unfair because we didn't experience many things. She simply said she didn't want to talk, despite reaching out after I acted a priori regarding my mental health. These are things she supports, however, it seems that when it comes to causing the damage, things change.
I was willing to rebuild us, without further complications. Indeed, I could have caused more damage, but I was willing to face it. She observed that I was afraid of her reactions, precisely because of what I would do with them. Without a doubt, I went to the services of the institution where she worked, but she had no other choice.
The scandal that girl caused was monumental. I can't pretend to be ironclad all the time. I don't know if she is used to submissive treatment in circumstances like these or if her environment is, but I definitely am not. I don't like being at the mercy of the aftermath, drowning in silence.
Such an act as hers ultimately implied a failure to manage her whims, to a certain extent a definitive abandonment. It's feeling that after what she did and provoked in me, she simply ran away from me, though not for any reason of her own. It's watching our relationship fracture precisely because of her, even though she was the one who had caused it.
We can safely say that she left me. Friends, boyfriends, she ultimately remains indifferent. Indeed, I felt it was unfair. I must admit that as time went by, I began to notice that she wanted to make less of a contribution to the efforts our relationship entailed, amidst her other relationships. Without a doubt, she succumbed to these latter, to the point of even relying on them to make herself less responsible for her role in our relationship. They even intervened.
It must be said, for my part, in that relationship, I was at a level of commitment, more so than accepting it as a zone of tranquility. That commitment consisted of ensuring that the relationship maintained agreements by guiding us through it, respecting the freedom with which we arrived and continuing to be in it. I didn't see beyond that because that wasn't my goal, but that doesn't mean I missed something amidst those details I discarded to focus on that goal.
At this moment, I don't know where she is, or even if it's worth searching for her. After all, if she's not willing to do something about her reactions, if she's not willing to surrender to the increasing magnitude of them, then it makes sense to face a beginning that would end in the same fate, another abandonment. It's curious, but the last time we saw each other, she didn't set a date for the end of this phase between us. However, we would fall back into the same cycle.
I'm not even sorry that I should continue waiting for her, as it would be another way of beginning and ending with the same outcome, assuming she still maintains the same relationships that included the one she had with me. Otherwise, we could indeed observe a level of commitment, as she doesn't retain the possibility of escape with others, and is supported by them as well. However, this would consist of the cessation of relationships with her surroundings, which, given this abandonment, must result in a strengthening of cohesion, also given by protection amid the circumstances experienced between the next-to-last and last time I saw her.
I feel no hope of seeing her again, and it's definitive. It would be a highly probable path to frustration to assume that adverse conditions existed. Despite everything, I feel there's something I'm omitting, I have to admit.
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I can totally understand your feelings here. it sounds like you were caught off guard by her response. Relationships can feel like a roller coaster.., as you described with her "definitive abandonment." Sometimes, despite the compatibility index being high initially, things can take unexpected turns.
It's undeniably tough when someone you care about becomes "indifferent," especially when you were ready to put in the effort. It seems like she might not have been in the same space to maintain relational equilibrium; Maybe she couldn’t cope with the changes or challenges that arose, which you mentioned as "succumbing" to other relationships. Not easy to face, but you're showing self-awareness, which is key. Wishing clarity and peace ahead for you!
hey, i see where you're coming from, but i'm not sure i completely agree. sometimes it feels like we're in a maze without a map, right? like, why assume that she "ran away"? 🤔 maybe she had her reasons that were hard to articulate. were there signs you might've missed? speaking from experience, sometimes we get caught up in our version of events; it’s easy to overlook what might be happening on the other side.
finding balance in such dynamics can be challenging, but it’s not a lost cause! i've been in relationships where things seemed pretty catastrophic, yet they eventually worked out. ever thought about reconnecting after giving it some breathing space? sometimes all it takes is a little time apart to gain some clarity and find a way forward. keep your chin up!!! 😊
i'm not entirely aligned with your perspective here. relationships are inherently complex and sometimes, like in the play "Waiting for Godot," we can find ourselves in a loop of expectations with no resolution. the idea that she "simply ran away" might gloss over unseen factors or pressures she was experiencing; 😕 sometimes it's really more about navigating multiple variables rather than seeking a singular cause.
personally, i've been in situations where miscommunication and personal mental frameworks led to misunderstandings. you say there was a "failure to manage her whims," but it's also possible she was undergoing her own internal struggle. positive growth often comes from understanding these nuances. perhaps this experience will serve as a catalyst for personal insight, leading to enriched future interactions. here's to clarity and a brighter path! 🌟
i get that you're feeling hurt, but i think there's more to the story. relationships are complex, and sometimes we don’t see the whole picture. you mentioned "definitive abandonment," but could it be there were underlying issues both sides missed? after all, it takes two to tango, right?
in my experience, it's easy to assume someone just "ran away" without considering their side of things. ever stopped to think if there was a moment of miscommunication or misunderstanding? i've been there, and later realized both parties had stuff we didn't talk about. maybe there’s a chance to learn from this, even if it feels rough right now😅. keep your mind open and take it as a lesson for future connections. why end something with no possibility of reconciliation when time can heal?!!
man, i totally get where you're coming from. your story really hit home for me, and it's so relatable! it's tough when someone you care about just bails when things get rocky. it's like they're not willing to put in the work when it's most needed, you know? 🤷♂️
been in a similar boat. i tried my hardest to fix things, but sometimes it feels like you're fighting a solo battle. it’s hard when they just "run away" without really giving it a shot; but yeah, sometimes it helps us grow and learn about ourselves. keep your head up, though! who knows what the future holds, maybe there's something better around the corner. it's all about learning and moving forward with hope. hang in there! 👍
totally feel you on this one. relationships can be such a roller coaster, right? you put in so much effort, hoping things will get better, but then they just "run away" when things start to get tough; it's frustrating! from what you said, it seems like you really tried to make things work, which takes a lot of guts and patience.
i've been there too, and sometimes it just feels like no matter how much you give, the other person might just not be ready or willing to meet you halfway... it's tough but maybe it's for the best. who needs to be stuck in a cycle of disappointment?!!! try to focus on the positives and growth you've gained from it all. keep doing you and remember, brighter days are ahead! 😊