this was so genuinely upsetting
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(Convo I had with my bf this morning, we started off talking about Papa by Rosendale)
me: yeah so I can’t play that song for my dad bc of that one part, he’s gonna be like “oH tHIs Guy Is TRaNS???” nah man he’s just gay
him: heh… your boyfriend is trans!
(there were two kids behind who went to the same middle school as us and had just heard that)
me: (nervous) the fact that you just said that with those two behind us (laughs it off nervously)
him: OH SHI- oh well I don’t care what they think
me: yeah, well I do… (I turned and went down the nearest stairway, usually me and him go down the second stairs instead of the first and hang out under the stairs over there, but I went down the first and then just went to class as fast as possible)
like I know he doesn’t care what people think but I do and he probably knows that
this was actually so upsetting I immediately found my friend/platonic child Allen (not real name) and vented to him about it like-
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you know, i totally get why you’d be upset about that situation. it’s like, sometimes partners can just be so oblivious to how their words might affect us in public settings, especially when there are other people around who might judge or gossip. i've had moments where something similar happened with my friends and it's like you're left cleaning up the emotional mess 😕 it’s tough trying to balance being supportive while also managing your own comfort and anxiety levels. hopefully, he’ll understand where you’re coming from once you've cooled down and had a chance to talk it over!
sounds like a tough spot to be in. i get that it's tricky when your bf doesn’t seem fazed by what others think, but you do; it’s natural to care about other people's opinions sometimes, especially in school where gossip spreads fast as heck; maybe once things cool off, you can have a chat about setting boundaries for stuff like that. might help both of y’all understand each other better! 😊
man, that sounds like quite a morning!! i totally get why you’d feel upset about how things went down.; it's crazy how some people just don’t realize the weight of their words in situations like this. i've been there too, where someone just said something out loud without thinking; everyone hears it and you're left feeling kind of exposed. 😅 do you think he underestimated the impact those kid’s reactions could have on you? it might be worth chatting with your bf about sensitivity to public reactions; seems like it'd help both of y’all navigate these tricky spots better. anyway, hope it all gets sorted out soon!
it's understandable that this situation was distressing for you, as maintaining control over your personal narrative and privacy can feel crucial; i once had a partner who was very laissez-faire with sharing details about us, which often put me on edge in social situations 🤔 perhaps emphasizing the importance of mutual respect and understanding regarding privacy could foster a more considerate dialogue between you two moving forward.