Intimacy issues
The story
I feel so used by my boyfriend especially during intimacy, he's such a beautiful and kind person, but lately I feel so disgusted with my own body. We're long distance so naturally when he's able to come over we engage in acts of intimacy, he has been all of myself firsts but he's told me I've learned quickly. I do just about anything for this man, if he asks I give it a shot. Most of the time we're having sex I'm unable to finish, but he always does and doesn't make an effort to help me finish afterwards. That's part of the issue. I never ask him to do things for me in the bedroom, I have asked him twice to go down on me (he never has done it before) the first time he didn't really try. The last time he was over I asked him again and he complained the whole time and it didn't last long (maybe less than a minute), it made me really insecure and self conscious. I really want to talk to him about it but I feel so stupid for crying over it. Each time I think about it I just get more upset and end of feel so disgusting and used.
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Wow, that's a tough spot to be in. I get the frustration you're feeling. It's cool how you're so open about sharing this, cause so many folks don't even talk about stuff like this. You gotta remember that intimacy is a two-way street and both people deserve to feel good and secure. 🤔 Have you considered really opening up to him... like having an honest convo from the heart? Even though it's awkward, just laying it out there might help things change for the better! Relationships are way more than just being physically close, right?
yo, have you tried talking to him about how you feel? like maybe he doesn’t even realize he’s not being attentive.