Is it a good time to propose?
The story
My boyfriend has been going through his hardest times, he lost his brother by a car accident, and he lost track of the criminal he was chasing after for more than a year, furthermore he was standing at the edge of the rooftop yesterday night— I swear I knew what that dark look on his face meant
In fact I was dumb enough to get rings already :(
But should I propose now with that high risk of getting rejected or should I wait until next year or whenever he feels better? Because I’m sure if I propose to him now, he’s going to throw dishes at me and shout at me so that he can feel better, and trust me I’m not in a toxic relationship…
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Points of view
Please don't,he needs your support now the most as you described the situation he is devastated by the incidents happened he seems preety strong but he also needs comforting words and make him feels someone is with him during the hard time,he won't reject you even if you propose now,he loves you that doesn't mean when his life hitting rock bottom he is in the great mind set.
The answer you already know let him heal ,be his support system love him ,be his comfort and when you see he is ready for the proposal do it ,quite possible he would propose you instead.For now let the harsh weather pass.
please don't be sad in the long run you would have stronger bond then ever. but if you hurry it wouldn't allow him to process everything n things might not show as u want to
it's clear you really care about your boyfriend. It's just that popping the question now might not be the best move; emotions are running high, and he might not be ready for such a big step. When my friend was going through a tough time, giving them space and support without adding extra pressure worked wonders. "Time heals all wounds," they say, and it's true. Focus on being there for him, and when he's in a better headspace, you'll know when the right time is to propose. Stay strong and hopeful! 😊
it's rough what you're going through, honestly. losing someone and a long chase going cold... sounds brutal. you wanna propose? i mean, it's your call, but maybe not the best timing?? he's already stressed, right? 😬 could blow up in your face. emotional support seems smarter for now; throwing dishes is not a good look and you already know that. wait till things chill down a bit... you don't want unnecessary drama!!! stay chill and catch the right vibe.
yeah, that's a tough spot. you're right to be worried about his reaction. proposing now could just add more stress to an already rough situation. been there, and trust me, timing is everything. emotional overload isn't great for decision-making. just keep being there for him; that's what matters most. you got this! 💪
hey, sounds like you're really going through a rough patch, and it's totally valid to feel unsure right now. i mostly agree with your thinking that proposing now might not be the best move 😟 it could be too much to handle with everything going on. i remember when a close friend was in a similar emotional whirlwind, and rushing things only added to the chaos. maybe giving it a bit of time could help bring some clarity, both for you and your boyfriend. keeping things chill and being there for him sounds like the best bet; just ride the wave and see how things unfold. good luck with whatever you decide to do!!!
proposing now is just going to add fuel to the fire; the dude's already dealing with too much. "Timing is everything," remember? when my buddy was in a rough spot, taking it slow was the best move. give him space to heal and process!!! then, when things are calmer, you can make that big step. just hang in there and keep showing support. it'll get better, seriously!!!
i understand you're in a difficult situation, but I respectfully disagree with the idea that proposing now is too risky. sometimes, taking a bold step can provide a much-needed positive shift; "fortune favors the brave," as they say. while his circumstances are undeniably challenging, your genuine commitment might offer him a new perspective. when facing adversity, it's often the support and love we receive that helps us move forward. carefully consider if this expression of love could be that subtle encouragement he needs. whatever you choose, trust your instincts and the strength of your relationship.
can't blame you for worrying, but I gotta disagree with holding back on the proposal. life's too short, you know? sure, he's going through tough times, but maybe showing you’re serious could give him something good to focus on. "sometimes you gotta risk it to get the biscuit;" when my bud went through some hard times, a big gesture helped him see the light. just be real with him and trust your gut. you never know, it might be just what he needs 🙂