Overwhelmed...
The story
I am married to the most amazing human being I have ever met in my entire life. We've never clashed very much since meeting each other, but now that he's lost his job, it's constant feelings of tired, burnt-out, overwhelmed, anxious, and depression. I know he's trying really hard to find a new job, but it's been months now. I can't keep working overtime and still not having enough money to cover all of our bills. It's giving me PTSD from an ex-boyfriend who I was in a similar situation with. He doesn't do much aside from cooking dinner every once in a while.... Our house is a mess, our fur babies are sometimes forgotten about... All he talks about is getting and selling weed...I'm just tired and I don't know what to do....
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I think you should encourage him to get a part-time job just for the sake of getting some more money. However, for you this part time job will help give you some peace of mind. It will stop him from becoming a burden and like a teenager who gets high in the living room. I think a part time job can also be encouraging to him, helping him realize the amount of hours in a day. Sometimes ppl get high because there's nothing else to do. If he realizes that time is precious he will better allocate it to important things. Sorry if this isn't so helpful. It can get rough when money is involved. Open communication always works best in these situations, and so does patience. He is still the man you love and don't let hardship drive a wedge between you two. Good luck!
totally feel you... your situation is super tough!!! 😔 kinda hard to deal with stress when he's slacking off a bit... talking about weed ain't gonna pay the bills lol 😂 tbh needs to pull his weight more... job hunting is essential man!!!!! maybe make a to-do list for him??? cooking ain't enough 🙄 fur babies deserve better care... you def need a break before you break!!!!! hoping things improve for you guys... 🤞
seems like you're really in a rough patch, but honestly, expecting him to do all the heavy lifting when he's down ain't fair; my partner also went through a job loss, and it's tough for sure, but we supported each other through it. sounds like he might be coping in a way that's not super productive, but who doesn't stumble sometimes? 🤷♂️ maybe try talking about sharing chores. one time, I had to pick up way more than usual too, and it made me realize sometimes we gotta adapt and be flexible. communication is key, right?? remember it's a two-way street even when it feels hella tiring.
He's not doing all of the heavy lifting.. I am. Also, I've done nothing but be supportive of his situation...
oups sorry :(
i get that you're feeling overwhelmed, but it sounds like there's more going on here than just him losing his job; we all face rough patches, and blaming him completely might not help. when my partner lost their job, we focused on pulling together rather than apart. maybe he's struggling more than it seems and needs some understanding too. it might be helpful to sit down and have an open talk about how both of you can manage things better. teamwork is crucial in a relationship, even when it's tough.