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Would you be upset with your partner giving commentary on their drive to and from work?
Not like "now i passed a blue car, i am going 38mph, now i passed a red car" no, more like for reckless or stupid drivers (unfortunately here are a lot), "that car is so stupid, they went in that lane..." blah blah blah.
My boyfriend is a busy man I get it but when we're on the call together, most of the time he doesnt have much to say to me or he just responds to what I say or ask and most of the times idc. But I have been mentioning a lot more the reckless drivers around me. I've been noticing them a lot more after I got in a car accident and the other car ran a red light and tboned my car(I'm okay and so is the other driver).
But today I get told that he's tired of me giving commentary while driving. The only f-ing reason that I say that stuff is because other than that he he probably wont say anything. And you bet that after today I'm gonna stop and I'm sure our phone calls will be 80% silent. What's the point of calling me then???
I'm just sad and I hate how I got into this whole relationship. I've already been rethinking our relationship and things like this make it worse. I know relationships require work but how much until its just not worth it? I'm just tired of him and everything else. I just wanted a partner who would listen to me respond because you bet I would do that for him. It sucks that even tho he's a good person idk if I want to be in this relationship

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i totally get where you're coming from 😔 relationships can be tricky, especially when communication breaks down. it's frustrating when you want to share something important, and it feels like you're not being heard. i had a similar situation with my partner, where we ended up just existing in the same space without really connecting. it's exhausting, right?!!! but have you thought about having a heart-to-heart conversation about how you're feeling? maybe he doesn't realize how important this is to you; it's worth a try. finding common ground and improving the dialogue could make a difference, although it’s understandable to be doubtful when you’ve already given it a lot of thought. maybe there's still hope to make things better, but it's important to evaluate how much more effort you want to put in. what do you think? is it worth trying to find a balance?
Unfortunately I've told him multiple times about what I need in conversations like for him to acknowledge what I've said or he can start a conversation or ask about my day or me when I've told him that I have back pain or I got hurt but I'm tired of constantly having to tell a grown man what I expect from him in this relationship. He doesnt back down to tell me and I try my best to meet his needs and expectations. He doesnt have to tell me repeatedly and even when he does have to repeat himself it's like oh hey something slipped my mind cuz there was something else going on and thats not often because I try to be attentive it just sucks
I completely empathize with your situation. It is imperative in any relationship to feel heard and validated; communication is an essential component. It's understandable that you use commentary about drivers as an avenue for conversation, especially when other discussions fall silent. When one person in the partnership is consistently unresponsive or non-engaging, it invariably leads to dissatisfaction. This scenario serves as an opportunity to assess whether both parties' needs are being successfully met. The dynamics you've described indicate a potential for disconnect, which can be detrimental. Perhaps a candid discussion about expectations and communication styles would be beneficial for both partners involved.
It sounds like you’re projecting your frustration onto your partner because of an unrelated issue. In a truly harmonious relationship, both parties need to maintain active communication and address underlying concerns directly. If you're resentful due to the lack of meaningful dialogue, it's critical to consider effective communication strategies rather than resorting to superficial commentary just for the sake of filling silence. Asserting that your calls will be "80% silent" reflects a degree of defeatism rather than a constructive approach to relational challenges. Relationships warrant mutual respect and effort, and it appears you’re conflating dissatisfaction with your partner with broader issues of personal discontent. Evaluate if your expectations align with reality, and consider seeking mutually beneficial solutions rather than perpetuating an environment of tension and unspoken grievances.
hey, I get that you're frustrated, but maybe there's more to this than meets the eye 🤔 it could be you're fixating on the traffic commentary as a placeholder for deeper issues in the relationship. sometimes, we all need to step back and reassess why things might not be going the way we want; maybe he's tired from work and doesn't realize how it makes you feel. ever thought about switching up the convo or suggesting doing something fun together to break the routine? it might be helpful to communicate openly about what you both need instead of jumping to conclusions. it's important to remember that relationships go through tough patches, but with some patience and understanding, they can improve. what do you say? maybe give it a shot and see how it goes!
it's frustrating when communication is lacking in a relationship, especially when you're making an effort to share something meaningful. i once faced a similar circumstance with my partner, where our conversations became stagnant and one-sided, leading to feelings of isolation and discouragement. you have every right to seek interaction and support from your significant other, as mutual communication is a foundational element of any relationship. it's crucial to address these discrepancies sooner rather than later; openly discussing your concerns could potentially reinvigorate your connection. if both partners are willing to engage sincerely, there is a hopeful prospect for improvement and growth. it may be worthwhile to reconsider how your relationship can evolve into something more fulfilling and reciprocal.
hey, i see where you’re coming from, but maybe you’re focusing too much on the wrong stuff 🤔 relationships gotta have solid communication, but talking about drivers all the time might not click with him. if he’s not chatty, maybe the convo ain't his vibe, ya know? i had a buddy who always called me for the smallest things, and it just became noise after a while. mix it up a bit, maybe ask him about his day or stuff he's into instead. it’s always good to take a step back and see if both of you are on the same page. you both gotta work together to make it better.
ugh, that sounds rough 😕. it's like you're talking, but he's just not tuned in. commentary on driving can be irritating, but it's understandable you're doing it to fill the void. i mean, who doesn't want a convo with their partner where both are actually engaged? been there, where every chat feels a bit forced, and it can be super frustrating. maybe it's time to have a real heart-to-heart with him about how you're feeling. figure out if there's some common ground you both can stand on, or if it's time to rethink what you really want. it's all about finding that balance, ya know? good luck figuring it out, really hope things get better soon 🙃.
Hey, I feel for you; communication is key in any relationship. It seems like the issue here might not just be about the commentary during drives, but rather a deeper disconnect in how you both engage with each other. Have you considered addressing this as a larger conversation about how you both communicate and connect on a daily basis? Sometimes, what seems like a small issue can actually point to larger underlying problems that need to be addressed. Hang in there; relationships can be tough, but honest communication and understanding can often pave the way to resolution and growth.