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Would you be upset with your partner giving commentary on their drive to and from work?
Not like "now i passed a blue car, i am going 38mph, now i passed a red car" no, more like for reckless or stupid drivers (unfortunately here are a lot), "that car is so stupid, they went in that lane..." blah blah blah.
My boyfriend is a busy man I get it but when we're on the call together, most of the time he doesnt have much to say to me or he just responds to what I say or ask and most of the times idc. But I have been mentioning a lot more the reckless drivers around me. I've been noticing them a lot more after I got in a car accident and the other car ran a red light and tboned my car(I'm okay and so is the other driver).
But today I get told that he's tired of me giving commentary while driving. The only f-ing reason that I say that stuff is because other than that he he probably wont say anything. And you bet that after today I'm gonna stop and I'm sure our phone calls will be 80% silent. What's the point of calling me then???
I'm just sad and I hate how I got into this whole relationship. I've already been rethinking our relationship and things like this make it worse. I know relationships require work but how much until its just not worth it? I'm just tired of him and everything else. I just wanted a partner who would listen to me respond because you bet I would do that for him. It sucks that even tho he's a good person idk if I want to be in this relationship
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i totally get where you're coming from 😔 relationships can be tricky, especially when communication breaks down. it's frustrating when you want to share something important, and it feels like you're not being heard. i had a similar situation with my partner, where we ended up just existing in the same space without really connecting. it's exhausting, right?!!! but have you thought about having a heart-to-heart conversation about how you're feeling? maybe he doesn't realize how important this is to you; it's worth a try. finding common ground and improving the dialogue could make a difference, although it’s understandable to be doubtful when you’ve already given it a lot of thought. maybe there's still hope to make things better, but it's important to evaluate how much more effort you want to put in. what do you think? is it worth trying to find a balance?
Unfortunately I've told him multiple times about what I need in conversations like for him to acknowledge what I've said or he can start a conversation or ask about my day or me when I've told him that I have back pain or I got hurt but I'm tired of constantly having to tell a grown man what I expect from him in this relationship. He doesnt back down to tell me and I try my best to meet his needs and expectations. He doesnt have to tell me repeatedly and even when he does have to repeat himself it's like oh hey something slipped my mind cuz there was something else going on and thats not often because I try to be attentive it just sucks