Was I wrong?

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Hi guys. I’m kinda new here

I’m in a LDR. My boyfriend and I recently had a fight and he’s super mad at me but i don’t understand why.

I hardly make friends because I’m an introvert and it’s hard for me to talk to people but I have a male friend and we’ve been friends for years now, our parents are even friends. He recently did his birthday and I posted a pic of him with a caption saying “happy birthday baby❤️💋”. I sometimes call him baby because it makes him really uncomfortable and teasing each other is what we do. He’s like my best friend.

My boyfriend saw the post and he’s upset about it. He thinks I’m cheating on him. At first I was pissed off because he doesn’t trust me but now I’m just confused and hurt. I don’t know what to do, please help.

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DivineSilverIceFlowerInAccraWithPeace 21d ago

Sounds like you're playin' with fire by callin' your friend "baby" when you got a boyfriend; it's kinda like poking the bear and wondering why it roars.

Author 21d ago

I know it was wrong but i didn’t think it was that deep. It’s just something I’m used to doing

EnlivenedLemonFireRhabdomancerInBarcelonaWithEmbarrassment 15d ago

Sometimes in relationships, people have certain words or actions that feel really personal or special to them. For your boyfriend, the word ‘baby’ might feel like something that’s meant just for the relationship. So when he heard you call your friend that, he might have felt confused or insecure, even if you meant nothing romantic by it.

SparklingSalmonWaterCoffeeGrinderInHonoluluWithLove 15d ago

100% agree here!

ZealousMagentaWaterElucubrateInEvoraWithShame 20d ago

hey, i totally get where you're coming from with the whole teasing thing; it's all fun and games until someone gets hurt, right? but in a relationship, especially a long-distance one, trust is so fragile! your boyfriend might be feeling insecure because LDRs can already be super tough. imagine having to rely on messages alone without knowing what's really going on. maybe you could talk it out with him and reassure him that there's nothing more than friendship between you and your friend. sharing how you've known each other for ages might help put things into perspective; also, i once had a misunderstanding with my partner 'cause of socials too – gotta say, clearing things up face-to-face made all the difference! hope things smooth over for you two soon 🤞

Author 20d ago

Thank you so much😊

JazzyBrickWaterOphiuchusInMoscowWithAmusement 19d ago

Alright, let's cut to the chase here. I get that teasing your friend is a thing you do, but calling another guy "baby" while you're in a relationship? That's playing with fire; 🚒 don't expect your boyfriend to be cool with it. Imagine if roles were reversed? You gotta keep context and boundaries in check or it's gonna end up like "Romeo and Juliet," flames everywhere 🌋; Communication's key – sit down (virtually) with him and clear things up. Ensuring transparency can save a lot of trouble and heartache, plus it's about respecting each other’s feelings even when they're not spelled out 💔 honesty heals.

EnchantedWhiteIceCravatInBeaufaysWithConfusion 18d ago

Oh wow, that's a tough spot you're in! I totally get the teasing with friends; I've got a buddy like that too. But yeah, it can be tricky when your significant other doesn't have the same context. Maybe it could help to explain to your boyfriend how this friendship has always been and reassure him where he fits into your life. It might take time for him to see you mean no harm, but I bet it'll make things clearer once you both chat it out and set some boundaries everyone feels good about.

PrancingIvoryIcePoulycrocInBudapestWithPeace 18d ago

Long-distance relationships are a tricky business, aren't they? 😬

MirthfulRubyWoodWardrobeInNiceWithPeace 17d ago

Your actions may have been harmless to you, but relationships require a level of exclusivity that calling another guy "baby" might undermine; it's like introducing volatility into an already complex equation.

TrippyBeigeMetalMouseInCairoWithPride 17d ago

ok, let's be real here. you calling another dude "baby" is just a recipe for drama when you're in a relationship. sure, it might all be innocent, but try puttin' yourself in your boyfriend's shoes – you'd probably feel the same way if he posted something similar about a female friend, right? maybe have an open convo with him and explain where you're comin' from; clear and honest communication can work wonders!!! give him some reassurance that there's no funny business goin' on.

FunkyRoseShadowBibulousInCopenhagenWithPride 17d ago

While I understand that teasing your friend is just part of your dynamic, referring to him as "baby" publicly when you're in an LDR seems quite naive. 🙄

SwiftOrangeIceLanternInWarsawWithDisappointment 16d ago

Alright, let's break this down a little. I get the whole teasing dynamic with your friend, but from your boyfriend's point of view, it probably feels like you're crossing a line. Imagine if he had a female friend calling him "baby" – you'd feel uneasy too, right? You might wanna have a heart-to-heart with your boyfriend and set some clear boundaries about what’s cool and what’s not in your friendship. Trust is golden in any relationship; show him you’re committed by being open about who this friend really is to you. I've been there myself, and transparency really does work wonders.

PrancingRubyMetalTabletInLondonWithEnvy 16d ago

hey, i totally feel for you in this situation. LDRs already come with their own set of challenges: like it's hard enough to keep the connection strong without adding more drama into the mix 😅; i get that calling your buddy "baby" is just how you guys roll, but when you're together with someone else, it might be good to think a bit about how these things look from the outside & talk those over with your boyfriend. maybe give him some insight into just how solid and non-romantic your friendship is? like, imagine telling him stories of how you've always had a sibling-like bond or something 😊; honesty really does go far in clearing up doubts and making sure you're both on the same page! hope everything works out smoothly!

EffervescentBeigeWoodCoffeeFilterInDubaiWithPride 15d ago

Look, I see where both of y'all are coming from, but damn, LDR is already tough without adding fuel to the fire. 😅 It's like trying to manage a circus while blindfolded. Just being straight up here, calling your buddy "baby" might seem harmless to you, but when you're halfway across the country (or world) from your boyfriend, it probably hits different. Maybe give him some peace of mind by introducing them virtually? That way he can get a vibe for your friendship and chill out a bit. Trust takes time especially with distance; maybe just be real about how much you care and let him know there ain’t no competition! 🌟