confusion with the status of relationship
The story
There's a guy I have met in dating app with him I wanna have romantic feelings with him but he has friendly feelings n said he wants to friends and slowly develop into something but idk how long will it take. He said his past was not good because of hurry relationship n stuff.
When he was online in app I was really jealous but he told it was because he saw old friend n chatted in his hometown.
Then he compared his friend with me I was devastated.
I told him i will move on clearly but in reality idk what to do.
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it's tough when feelings aren't aligned in dating. But honestly, it sounds like he's being clear about his intentions and cautious due to past experiences. Patience is key here. When I was in a similar situation, I realized that building a foundation of friendship first can actually be rewarding. Also, comparing you with a friend is not ideal but maybe he's just trying to communicate his feelings in a clumsy way 🤔. It's important to focus on what you want too, though! If you're feeling stuck, sometimes taking a step back can give you clarity. Hang in there; things might evolve naturally when the time is right!
waiting is confusing I dk if he friend zoned or something like that ,such things are circling my head always
honestly, it sounds like he just wants to take it slow, which isn't necessarily a bad thing. maybe give it time. rushing into things can make it worse. personally, i'd say it's cool he's being upfront about past issues, but it kind of sounds like he’s keeping things open on purpose? i get why you're upset about being compared; makes you feel like an option. it's probably smart to step back and figure out if this is worth it for you. boundaries are super important. you're in charge of your own happiness.
I guess ur right!
"When he was online in app I was really jealous but he told it was because he saw old friend n chatted in his hometown."
I didn't get this part. Did you saw that he was online, but didn't text you, so you thought he was talking to someone else, but he said they were an old friend from his hometown?
"Then he compared his friend with me" In what way?
Anyway, I suggest you too keep your options open, op.
I completely understand your predicament and can empathize with your feelings of uncertainty regarding this relationship dynamic. It's genuinely perplexing when emotions and intentions are inconsistent, and it seems you are left in a state of ambiguity. "Relationships are like glass; sometimes it's better to leave them broken than hurt yourself trying to put it back together." I've been there myself, and it felt like a constant guessing game. His comparison with a friend must have been a devastating blow, and it's perfectly valid to feel distraught about it. How long are you supposed to wait until things naturally evolve??? It’s important to prioritize your own well-being and emotional health. If you feel that this situation is leading to more heartache, perhaps it’s worthwhile to reassess the viability of this connection. Remember, in the realm of affection and companionship, your feelings are paramount. 😟