Every man tells a lot of lie to their partners.
The story
I've dated several boys in my life. But I left them one by one just because they shared a common trait. All of them were addicted to po*nography. I was having no problem with that until I found out my trusted ones were addicted. At the very first I thought they were good, but gradually I found out their online activities somehow. I had an access of their google account and I saw that my first was addicted to naked girls. The second and third one was involved in many dark fantasy groups in social media. And the last one, my one and only lover, I just found out he's addicted too. Even if he loves me a lot, at least I thought of that before but now I'm afraid. He has all my private photos. Still he is addicted to porn. I found out and confronted him. But he's defending himself and behaving rude. Seems like it's my fault. He's not even telling the truth. That means till today he was lying to me all these days. He promised me that he won't do that. He promised by the swear of God. How could he do that? He broke his promise. What should I do now? Our marriage is fixed. He's not ready to confess. What would people have thought if they had seen this on a reality TV show?
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Yo, it's wild how mad you're getting over something kinda typical. Most guys are into that stuff... it's not like he's out there cheating on you in real life or somethin'. I mean, maybe have an honest convo about boundaries and what you want, but freakin' out like this over his internet habits? If it bugs you that much, rethink the whole wedding thing instead of just blaming him for not livin' up to impossible standards.
It’s impossible not to watch porn? I think you’re projecting. If you can’t go without porn, you need to see a therapist.
man, i totally get where you're coming from and it's not crazy to be upset about this. like, it's frustrating when people you trust just can't be honest with you and it makes you feel disrespected. seriously though, when someone promises something by the "swear of God" and then breaks that promise, it cuts deep in a way that's hard to shake off. i've been in a similar situation before (not exactly the same but close enough) and honestly felt like the rug was pulled out from under me. listen, if he can’t own up to his actions now before you're even married, what’s gonna change later? 🤔 maybe dig deeper into why this bothers him more than he's admitting because those patterns don't just magically disappear after saying "i do". boundaries should mean something solid!
Relationships can get real complicated, especially when trust gets tangled up in the mix. It's pretty common for folks to have their own online habits, but when those collide with personal boundaries, things might get a bit messy; I’m wondering if there’s maybe a bigger issue here about communication and expectations? 🤔 When someone promises something sacred like that and then doesn't follow through, it's understandable why you'd feel betrayed. However, marriage is quite the commitment and understanding each other deeply beforehand could make all the difference! Maybe this is an opportunity to really talk it out without any finger-pointing or blaming (super tough though!). Finding middle ground where both of you feel respected might be key.
Guess you gotta ask yourself what you want and if it's something you can compromise on. People are complex and have different ways of dealing with things; none of us are saints all the time. Maybe think about whether trust can be rebuilt and what boundaries you'd need for that to happen. Just remember, your happiness is crucial, and a good relationship is built on honesty... not just promises!
reading your post reminds me of my friend who had a similar issue. she discovered her fiancé was also deep into that stuff, and it really shook her trust. but they went for couple’s therapy to address it before making any big decisions; helped them communicate better about their needs and boundaries. maybe give that a shot if you're still considering the marriage... or just bail if you can't deal with it 🤷♂️
sounds like a tough spot to be in. relationships can really test your patience and understanding sometimes. it's not just about him watching stuff online but more about the trust that's taken a hit. maybe have a heart-to-heart with him, try seeing why he's not coming clean or acknowledging how you feel; understanding that might help you decide what’s next. stay true to yourself too though... if you’re uncomfortable now, think about how those feelings might affect your future together.
Man, I totally feel you; it must be rough discovering all that about the guys you've trusted. It's like finding out your favorite dessert has expired ingredients or something, feels a bit rotten inside. 😓 But real talk, maybe it's worth asking yourself if this is something you can work through together or if it's always going to hang over you. At the end of the day, trust and honesty are hella important in any relationship, ya know? If he's not willing to own up and have an open discussion now, maybe that's a sign of how things might go down later too... Sometimes we gotta make those tough decisions even though they're uncomfortable; better safe than sorry!