Is this normal? Disgustion...
The story
There’s this dude who likes me, but I’m afraid if I do date him, I’ll grow repulsive and disgusted by him. Let me explain.
I’ve been in one relationship before, and after a few months of them showing affection in words, I began to grow disgusted at them and everything about them. Weird thing is, I want a relationship, it’s just I know I only like the idea of it. Except when the idea came to life, the exact reaction occurred. Disgustion.
Does anyone else experience this..?
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i can relate to what you're going through, kinda like when i always think about upgrading my car but then get tired of it after a few months. liking the idea more than reality is common. also, sometimes we idealize relationships too much and reality doesn't match our expectations. maybe slowing down and really getting to know someone before diving in might help prevent that "disgustion," as you've put it. it's worth considering if taking things at your own pace changes the experience 🙂
your situation really reminds me of how some people get this shiny new toy and once the novelty wears off, it's like... meh; guess it’s quite natural to have a difference in what we fantasize versus reality. maybe part of it could be about understanding what's driving the initial attraction vs what's turning you off later? that might help you get more clarity on why those feelings develop. sometimes digging into our own expectations can reveal surprising things, you know? have you ever noticed if there's a pattern in what triggers these feelings? 🤔