My confusing situationship
The story
So me and this girl have been talking on and off for about a year, to be specific within this year the reasons we've ended things we're she was over stressed by school, she didn't want to ask me to change and she felt like we were to different and I mean it's my fault for having my standards so low to even take her back because every time we ended things it's because she wanted to but about two and a half months ago she wanted to start talking again but just as friends, which is totally fine but what I was aware of is the fact she would be talking with other guys while talking with me. The way I found out is bc we work together and that's how we met and so we were on shift together just having fun laughing and then one of my friends walk in and I walk up to him calling him by his name bc this is one of my closest friends and like after our shift together she requests to follow him on Instagram and my friend texts me and he's like "do u know who this is" and I'm like "oh that's the girl I'm talking with, she prob heard me call u by your name while at work" and yk I fully trusted this girl so I thought she just followed him bc he was my friend and no other reason but then I started telling her about it and when I told her about the part of me saying that's the girl I'm talking with she blows up in my face and is like "what right do you have to put labels on us, I followed him because she caught my eye and you have no right to interfere" but like I was under the impression that we were fully just trying to work things out between us and it's not like we've just been friends per say I mean litterally the day before she was talking about how jacked I am, and the day before how cute I am and then the day before saying she was shaking because I almost saw her without makeup and then like a week before that saying she was concerned that it seemed like I didn't like her anymore
and like what am I meant to do? I liked this girl so much but I can't just take that laying down right? and I mean I haven't talked to her since but I have to see her at work on Sunday
I just need some advice on the whole situation, maybe I'm being over dramatic and I'm wrong but I feel like I'm being an idiot.
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I think you should tell her you can't be friends with her anymore. Be honest, tell her even though she said she just wanted to be friends, you thought there was more going on because of the stuff you mentioned in this post and she said to you. Then tell you can't do this and you can't be friends. If she says anything to the effect ohh, I'm not sure about my feelings etc tell her you don't want to wait until she figures out her feelings. Dude, this girl knows you like her a lot and she knows she's breaking your heart, but she doesn't care, because it's an ego boost. You should kick her out of your life.
Dude, sounds like you're tangled in a bit of a mess here. It seems you're interpreting her mixed signals as something more than she intended. 🤔 You mentioned she wants to be "just friends," yet you're reading deeper into compliments. That's a classic case of incongruent communication from both sides.
The whole Instagram follow thing? Honestly, it's probably not as big a deal as it seems. People follow for all kinds of reasons; not necessarily a romantic interest. Her response may have been overblown, but it's clear she values independence and doesn't want things defined so rigidly at this point.
I get it—I've been in similar shoes, assuming a situation was leading somewhere it wasn’t. "The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place," as George Bernard Shaw said. Sometimes we just need to have a clear conversation instead of jumping to conclusions.
Next time, try setting clear boundaries and have an honest dialogue. It might be uncomfortable, but it could prevent misunderstandings. Good luck navigating this, and keep your chin up; things have a way of working themselves out if they're meant to be.
Man, I feel you on this confusing rollercoaster you’re on. It’s like you’ve been dragged into the friend zone and she's mixing signals like a wannabe DJ. Honestly, it's not cool that she’s blowing up over you trying to define what’s happening between you two; that’s just communication 101, right? 🤷♂️ If she’s giving you these compliments, flirting, and then freaking out when you try to clarify things, she’s sending some mad mixed messages.
I've had a similar situation where it felt like no matter what I said or did, I was just a pawn in their game. It's frustrating, to be honest. You deserve someone who's straight up about what they want. As the saying goes, "The truth doesn’t cost anything, but a lie could cost you everything." You’re trying to be upfront, and she seems to be dancing around the facts.
It's great that you’re coming to grips with not letting this slide; you shouldn’t have to deal with unnecessary drama. Good luck when you see her at work. Just keep it real and focus on you—maybe that'll be the wake-up call she needs.