recently, i’ve been having a lot angry feelings towards my ex boyfriend, who we will refer to as “Lyle”. Lyle and i met back in 2023, when i was 19 and he was 25. we met on grindr, hitting it off right away. Looking back now, i really wish i could’ve seen the immediate red flags after the first few dates that we had. I found out around the second date that he had an ex fiancé, which i was fine with because they seemed like they were on good terms. during that time when we had first started dating, we had a conversation one day where he told me that he was planning on going to a festival , that was themed around a very specific animated children’s movie. he would be going with his ex fiancé, but i shouldn’t have to worry because things “weren’t like that anymore”. i trusted him, and was okay with him going. a few weeks go by, i spend my 20th birthday with him and two of my friends.

In the beginning of September is when he left for the festival. One morning as i was getting ready to go to a friend’s house, I saw that he had texted me, and the beginning of the message started off with the dreaded “I’m so sorry (my name) but…”

He had sent me an essay explaining that he had planned on cheating on me with one of the ex bridesmaids, and his ex fiancé had found out, and tried to commit s*icide by jumping out of the car. on top of that, he would be missing his flight home, just so he could stay and take care of her after the fact. of course my naive ass didn’t break up with him, and this cycle continued.

We were on and off for a few years, he constantly would be doing sneaky things behind my back. for example another major time that he cheated on me, was when he told me that he was going to colorado with a friend, but instead went to vegas with some girl and they slept together. Recently I found out he’d been sleeping with his coworker while he was working as an EMT for border patrol. He got fired from that job because he kept calling out, and the reason he kept calling out was due to his rampant alcohol abuse. He even admitted to me that he would drink at work, but hadn’t gotten caught. He had to move back to his home state in the northeastern part of the states after this, since his job provided his housing.

He moved away in January of 2025, and we kept in close contact. In June of that year, we went to a city close by to his state for a concert, and that was the last time we saw each other. He made several empty promises, I should’ve known that would be the last time I saw him.

In the early fall I could tell he was growing distant. He kept bringing up this “friend” he had, and I was already getting a bad feeling. In October he was supposed to fly out and go visit the coworker he had been sleeping with, but ended up missing the flight (might i add, she paid for the ticket). when he finally broke it off with me, he used every pathetic excuse about how he “had needs” and told me that he was going to live his life while he was out there. which is a load of bullshit, considering the only reason he’s out there is because he got fired. We stayed in contact for a while after, and the last time I talked to him he had gotten fired from the job he had gotten since moving there.It was another medical job and go figure, for the same exact reason. He also got a new job, but failed the drug test because he used fake urine, so didn’t end up getting hired.

But now, Lyle suddenly thinks that just because he has a new girlfriend that he is suddenly absolved of all the hurt, and the emotional damage he’s caused for people, especially his romantic partners. He hasn’t ever faced any real repercussions for his abhorrent behavior, and I need to make sure that people know about this before he can cause anymore harm. He is a lying, manipulative, deceitful prick who only cares about what he can stick his dick in next. What makes things even worse is that when him and his new girlfriend started dating, we hadn’t stopped being sexual with each other, cause he waited until the very last minute to tell me. I wish I could find information about his ex fiancé and his coworker, but he was so secretive with the people in his life that getting to know him like that felt impossible. The people in his life need to know about what he does to people, and how quickly he will destroy his relationships with his friends just to fulfill his own pathetic ego.

Should I post this on r/AIO? I’m not really sure what to do but This needs to be shared.

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