Tired of Broken Promises and Financial Strain
The story
Dont know how to start, but last year I told my partner to never ever loan money online because I kept on worrying that he would get scammed in instead of getting what he wanted, later on when we were heading home I noticed that he kept hiding his phone from me whenever I would peek, and obviously I noticed something strange as he usually let's me peek to his phone, moving foward is that he told me that he borrowed some money online to buy something that he really wanted (p.s. things are getting a little bit rough fue to financial problems), I was mad but forgave him later on and told him the second time that he should promise me that he wouldn't borrow or loan some money online. Moving foward things are going great we were having fun, but I dont specifically know how I know again but he borrowed money again through online because his reason is that "he was irritated and out of his mind by the we had an argument to each other" which I was angry and a bit sad because firstly notnonly he broke his promise to me but at the same time it feels like it was my fault that we fought to each other. I didn't argue back but just scolded him because it was also affecting me to, as because the cost kept getting higher and he needed help so I lend him some money. I told him the THIRD TIME that he should promise me again and stop spending and start saving money. At this point I dont know why but im slowly losing trust on him whenever he would do something I just kinda accepted it, never argue about it because it will only make things worst.
Recently he reached out to me again that he needed to pay something, which is for the money he borrowed again online, I didn't argue but yet dissapointed, I told him that this time he should pay me back because heck the money he needed to pay is out of my budget, since I "love him" that much I lend him some cash, later on since I was bored I wanted to play with my partner so I asked him out to play with me, and thinking also that he would be easy on me and even be affectionate towards me since I did him a favor and such, i expected too much and didn't gpt that kind of treatment but it's whatever its just a game, during the game there's this figurine he wanted to buy and even told his dad and such and he agreed (p.s. we are only college students that still needed support from our parents) and he wanted to ask the buyer if its still available on the day of his birthday, which he reached out to me needing help to chat the seller and I told him I would do it later as because we were playing, on our last game which he reminded me again that he needed help I told him I would do it later, but he seems soo desperate to ask the seller and decided to ask it himself in a mad tone, which I got angry and he got angry with me saying "I'll do it myself, all ypu wanted to do just to play" which I got furious so I left the game.
Things aren't good with us recently and kept on thinking the things that I have done to him, providing him financial needs whenever he needed to without asking anything in return and even the love that he needed since everything is going rough with him so as much a possible I tried to become supportive, but in return it feels like the more I provide the lesser i get in return, I've been expecting a lot to him, maybe something more affectionate rather than giving me such sexual activities and such, even though i kept telling myself when he's happy then I'm happy but at the same time I don't feel like that.
I can't even confront him my feelings like before, can't even cry out like this in front of him, knowing nothing will happen, I've been distancing my real feelings with him, should I just leave him if this keeps happening, all the vreak prormises that he told me he would srop doing it to me, the things even the little ones he would get angry about, mybfeelings being invalidated knowing if I opened up he will get angry with me or even being dissapointed with me.

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Wow, that's a pretty intense situation you're dealing with! 😬 It sounds like you've been super patient and supportive, but your partner's gotta step up and stop breaking promises. It's tough when trust gets chipped away little by little. You deserve someone who listens and doesn't just take you for granted. It's frustrating when you give so much and feel like you're getting nothing but headaches in return!!!
Honestly, it's not cool to have your feelings invalidated or be left worrying about fights over little things. You need to take care of yourself too. If he's not gonna listen after all the chances you've given him, maybe it's time to rethink things??? Remember, you deserve to be happy too!!! Just take a step back and see what’s really doing you good. Stay strong! 💪❤️
Wow, that's a tough situation you're in. I totally get why you'd be frustrated. It sounds like you're being really supportive, but he just keeps crossing those financial boundaries you set. Financial stress can really mess things up, and it seems like he's not handling it well. 😕
I've been in a similar spot where I gave too many chances, hoping things would improve. Sadly, sometimes people don’t change until they really face the consequences. It's tricky when love makes us overlook these things, but it's important to protect yourself too. Maybe it's time to have a serious talk about how this is affecting you both. You deserve to be heard and have a partner who respects your boundaries! 🙌
It sounds like you're in a really frustrating situation!!! You’ve been incredibly patient, but enough is enough!!! Your partner needs to take responsibility and stop violating financial boundaries. Trust is the backbone of any relationship, and it's unacceptable for him to keep breaking promises. You deserve a partner who respects you and your limits. Stay optimistic, though!!! Address this head-on, and hopefully, it'll push things in a better direction!!! Keep your head up!!! 😊