ALWAYS THE PROBLEM
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I don't know where to start, but it feels heavy, and it always happens quite sometimes now. Am I the problem? Am I the bad daughter? Please enlighten me and give me some advice, I'm a working student, I work at the university, and in exchange, I'm only paying my tuition fee of 1,000. So that's why I can't no longer help with the house chores anymore, but I will help once I get the free time. Sometimes I do all of our laundry on Sunday so that I can at least help. But I think it wasn't enough because all of what I heard from my mother is always nagging and telling me that I no longer help with the house chores, and now I'm lazy. It feels heavy right now because my mother and I is fighting as a while ago

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I hear you, and that sucks. 😕 You're not in the wrong here. Balancing work, school, and home responsibilities is a logistical nightmare. It's expected your mom should recognize your bandwidth issues.😤 My sis was a work-study student too; she had the same battle at home. Educate your mom on your constraint matrices. Communicate your operational load to her and reassess her expectations. Maybe schedule a weekly stakeholders' meeting to discuss chores? You’re not lazy; you're optimizing your limited resources. Hang in there!
honestly, I get where you're coming from, but it seems like you're kinda missing your mom's perspective a bit 🤔 like, sure, you're busy with work and studies, but she's probably handling a lot too and sees things falling on her; maybe she's just really overwhelmed herself? you mentioned you don't help much with chores anymore, and while it's understandable due to your schedule, have you considered having a sit-down with her to discuss a more collaborative solution? sometimes we forget how much others are juggling in their lives. "am I the bad daughter?" might not be the right question – is there some middle ground you could reach together? 😊
You’re not a bad daughter and it seems like her words are pretty hurtful. Like one of the other responses, I think you guys should find a compromise. In new chapters, you can’t always keep things the same. It’s ok to try and have empathy and understanding for your mom but also respect your own feelings and save some understanding for yourself too.
yo, I get you're stressed but it kinda seems like you're dodging chores here?? 🤔 like I know you're busy, but plenty of folks manage work and helping out at home too! maybe "I'm a bad daughter" isn't the real deal here. you're not lazy, just need some time management!!! 🎯 maybe try a little harder at finding balance and talk to your mom?? it could improve things for both of you! 😅
honestly, it sounds like you’re dodging chores and justifying it with your workload?? i work full-time and still do my part at home; time management is crucial for balancing everything. "am I the bad daughter?" is not the right angle here. your mom's got a point. stepping up and communicating effectively could really help mend things. one time, I was overwhelmed too, but I made a plan—worked out better for everyone 😊
kinda sounds like you're in over your head with managing everything 🤔 but honestly, a lot of people juggle work and school and still contribute at home; your mom might be feeling the pinch of you not helping out as much. "am i the bad daughter?" is a question that seems more about guilt than reality. it's important to consider parental expectations and household dynamics; i once had to reevaluate my priorities when things got tense at home. maybe have an open dialogue with your mom about dividing chores in a way that respects both your schedules and needs?
it seems like you might be overestimating how much you're really handling because lots of people juggle school, work, and home responsibilities; it's not uncommon. 🤔 when you say "am I the bad daughter?" it feels like you're looking for validation rather than addressing the root issue. one time I thought my workload was excessive too, but then I realized I needed better time management. are you really maximizing your time and resources efficiently, or is there room for improvement here? a genuine conversation with your mom might reveal more about her perspective and what exactly is causing the friction.
sounds like you’re facing a classic work-life balance issue. 🤔 while it’s commendable you’re a working student, many manage to contribute at home too; maybe there's more you could do on this front? “am i the bad daughter?” is an understandable worry, but perhaps it's more about adjusting time management techniques. the key could be finding a compromise with your mom to better distribute chores??? open communication might just be the solution you both need!!!