How a pack of nuggets sparked an argument between my parents
The story
My brother, who is easily distracted and often forgetful, forgot to put a pack of frozen nuggets in the freezer. My dad got pissed because not only did he forgot to put the nuggets in the freezer, he also, apparently, was using the TV even though he's banned from using any devices. So, he beats him and my mom gets upset and starts scolding my brother. Long story short, my parents started arguing and shit went downhill from there. My mom becomes very emotional volatile because every time they have an argument, my father dismisses as being "irrational" and "crazy" and also chooses to ignore her arguments when he doesn't agree. He's also very avoidant when it comes to being confronted, always countering with the "sacrifices" he has to make for the family (but apparently can't sacrifice his ego for the peace of the family).
A couple minutes later, he's in my room, explaining what happened in his perspective, mind you he is very biased and close minded when comes to arguments, attempting to defend himself in the argument. Then, I tried to tell him that the argument wasn't about the nuggets or my brother, but more about between them. And he keeps deflecting and ignoring what I'm saying.
So, I'm frustrated as hell rn bc not only did he ignore what I had to say to him, but also because HE CANT RECOGNIZE THE FACT HE'S LITERALLY DODGING WHAT IM SAYING TO HIM LIKE WHAT HE DOES TO MY MOM. From what I observed from him, he has a low ass EQ and very much lacks communication skills. Which why I gave up on talking to him. It pisses me off so much, literally the pack of nuggets weren't the reason why my parents had an argument, HE LITERALLY STARTED BEING EMOTIONAL ABOUT IT and proceeds to call my mom "emotional irrational" because she doesn't want to listen to him, even tho she did and explained herself, when HES DOING. THE. SAME. THING!!! I literally cannot with that man anymore. It's like talking to a brick wall, but a brick wall wouldn't call me insults and willingly ignore what I have to say. I'm just so tired, they've been arguing a lot since I was baby. I really just wanna leave my home since I'll be graduating soon but I have younger siblings too and now I'm worried they're going have to endure a grown ass man trying to win an "argument" with his wife that he started just like what I went through. I cannot anymore at this. These stupid ass arguments have gotten to a point. Not to mention, they both cancelled a FLIGHT to BALI JUST TODAY bc of their argument. Oh my days. That money could have been acc used for the flight tickets but God forbid a pack of nuggets be outside of the freezer
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man, that sounds like a total mess; i really feel for you. it's wild how something as small as a pack of nuggets can unravel into all that chaos. emotions run high, and it seems your dad's got this pattern of dismissing valid concerns and ignoring perspective—not cool at all 🤦♂️. i've seen a lot of people say it's crucial to learn communication skills, but some just never get the hang of it. maybe focusing on your own path and future might help lessen the stress until you can change the situation for yourself and eventually for your siblings too; stay strong!
Oh dear, this situation definitely sounds like it's spiraling out of control!! It's absolutely maddening when someone can't see beyond their own perspective and consistently deflects valid points; trust me, I know how that feels. My father used to do the same thing, always dodging responsibility under the guise of "sacrifices"—it's such a frustrating tactic!!! It seems like your dad is emotionally stuck in his ways, which can be incredibly suffocating for everyone involved. Your concern for your siblings shows how mature and empathetic you are, even amidst this chaos. Hopefully, when you graduate and have more independence, you'll find some peace and maybe create an environment where your siblings feel heard and understood!
Wow, this whole situation sounds like a train wreck on steroids. It's wild how something as trivial as a pack of nuggets can set off world war three in your house. Your dad’s got issues if he can't even see he's acting just like the people he's criticizing. I get it must be exhausting dealing with that constant deflection and lack of emotional intelligence, but hang in there! 🤞 Just focus on getting out and making a better environment for yourself; your siblings might pick up on your vibe and learn from your strength too.