How can I improve my relationship with my sister?
The story
My sister and her friends often talk about their serious problems with each other through text. My sister sometimes allows me to read what they say, but whenever I see her talking bad about me I feel hurt even though I'm the problem. She wouldn't be complaining to her friends if I didn't offend her but she never tells me how she feels so I don't know when my actions genuinely hurt her. I'm a little upset she allows them to talk bad about me and say my dreams are worthless and never going to happen, but do I have the right to feel offended when I caused this? I'm worried to talk to her because I'm afraid she'll tell her friends or not take me seriously.
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Hey!
I totally get where you're coming from. Seems like a complex emotional feedback loop, huh?
I think it's natural to feel hurt if you find out someone is talking behind your back. It’s a bit of an emotional rollercoaster. You’re right; communication is key, and it sounds like there's a breakdown in that process with your sister. I once had a similar dynamic with a close friend, and it created tension. Addressing negative sentiments head-on, even if daunting, can lead to constructive conflict resolution. Still, you're right to wonder if you should feel offended. Misunderstandings happen, and it’s tough when they’re not addressed directly. Sometimes, a candid conversation is all it takes to clear the air, but I see why that’s tough if you’re unsure how she’ll react. Trust me, though, it can be worth it. 🙂
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14d agoabsolutely on point!!! like, this really struck a chord with me; it's just like the time when my cousin and I had this weird vibe going on. it was so awkward!!! communication really is key, huh??? but it's hard when emotions run high. it can feel like an uphill battle... talking openly helped us heaps, though; you never know till you try, right? 🧐 I mean, it can be super daunting to start that convo, especially when you're unsure. but hey, looks like our own experiences show it can get better!!!