I don’t understand why I dislike my family
The story
So I’ve been recently spending more time with my family & sleeping over, and I’m loving it! Maybe too much…
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After I spent two days at my grandparents house I was really relaxed and happy? And I felt sad I was leaving to go home. So when I got home I was immediately left to a loud house. A very different contrast to a quiet, comfortable, clean grandparents house. And I have a lot of sensory issues and verbal delays so I can’t really speak for myself when im overstimulated and upset. So when I walk in I immediately want to go back to my grandparents house so I just go to my room without saying hello or anything since the tv was very loud and I didn’t want to argue with my dad. And I felt very frustrated, annoyed, upset, and somewhat disappointed??
So later that night I came down for dinner, the tv blaring an action movie, the dogs barking, dinner cold on the counter, and stepping on sharp things scattered on the floor. So first of all, I’m overstimulated. I can feel and hear everything at the same time. So I go to get some ice and water and the freezer is packed with frozen crap blocking the ice maker, making there BARELY any ice so I’m annoyed! I haven’t been home for TWO DAYS and I can’t even have ice on a hot day. So I get my ice and go eat dinner alone on at the dinner table because my parents sit on the couch and eat it together not with me. So I’m eating right? The rice is too wet… the chicken is too dry… the tvs too loud.. and my fork isn’t big enough.. I know I may sound picky and just complaining but honestly after dealing with this every day and is back home after a couple days it pisses you off. So I haven’t even been asked how my day was or any plans I have so I feel unappreciated because I want to feel cared about. So honestly I’m pissed and just annoyed so I mutter “I like grandmas house better..” so my mom asks, “Do you not like it here?” What do you think??? I’ve been asking you guys to turn down the tv multiple times a week and just asking for the questions to stop! So I’m just really annoyed and frustrated from her saying that so I say, “No, I just- it’s just so loud here all the time and it’s so quiet at grandmas house.” And I get no response which sets me off because now I feel bad for saying the truth. And now I want to cry and feel her hug but I dont ask and just leave because I felt ungrateful.
Before you say that I’m just ungrateful and a brat, I’m 13. A girl at that too. And I feel that I have complex emotions and can understand when I need to have a break or be serious. And I just want to leave in perspective this is environment had been a constant thing for 5 years now. And all of my issues and idk I’m just still developing and I have a lot of hormones and anxiety and adhd so it’s just very hard, and I have a lot of sensory issues and verbal delays.
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Man, I totally get where you're coming from. 🤯 I've been to my grandma's place, and it's like stepping into a soothing spa compared to the usual chaos at home. You just want a bit of peace and quiet, not too much to ask, right? 😅 It's a total drag when parents don't pick up on how the loud noise and constant hustle mess with your head; I've been there too, and it can drive anyone nuts. Maybe try talking to them during a calm moment? 🤔 Worked for me when I felt like that. Keep your head up, things can get better!
Hey, I get it; life's not easy at 13, but maybe you're blowing this up a bit. 😅 I remember thinking my folks were the loudest people on Earth, and yeah, that sucks, but it's kind of normal. Try some noise-canceling headphones or something; they saved me when my place felt like a circus. “It is what it is,” but you might find some peace with a little adjustment. Best to learn how to adapt now, as life gets noisier later on.
Your situation is frustrating, and your concern about the sensory overload is valid.... Life at home clearly contrasts starkly with the peace at your grandparents. :(:( You are justified in feeling overwhelmed!! and those around you should endeavor to understand and accommodate your needs more effectively; their lack of responsiveness is concerning.....
Sounds really frustrating; it's tough feeling unheard when you're dealing with sensory overload. 🤯 Your sensory processing challenges clearly make noise and disorder feel overwhelming at home. It seems like your emotional well-being isn't being prioritized effectively. Keep advocating for a more accommodating environment, but it's essential to also communicate how these disruptions impact you;;; that's key in stress management.
sounds like you're dealing with a lot, but honestly, it seems like you might be overthinking this a bit?! adults not always tuning into your needs isn't unusual, especially with sensory issues. what did you expect?? houses are naturally bustling; maybe it's worth trying some adaptive strategies to cope?? sure, it's frustrating, but that's kind of part of growing up!!! adjusting to these environments can teach you resilience and help manage your expectations.
your narrative certainly raises some valid points, but it almost seems like you're expecting an unrealistic level of tranquility at home; life isn't always suited to our sensory preferences. experiencing agitation in a cluttered and noisy environment is naturally perplexing; however, it's not atypical. extracting yourself from the environment or employing some coping strategies might prove beneficial???? everyone in the household has their own routines, and those may not align seamlessly with yours. while your frustrations are understandable, perhaps recalibrating your expectations could engender a modicum of solace. 🤔
I understand you're dealing with a challenging environment, and it certainly isn't easy. Yet, familial homes are rarely quiet havens, and adapting to such spaces is an important skill. "Patience is a virtue," and finding ways to manage these sensory issues is essential. Perhaps by introducing some coping techniques, you might discover a more profound sense of peace. Remember, every family dynamic has its complexities, and learning to navigate them can build resilience.
i get that you're having a hard time with all the noise and chaos, and yeah, it can be stressful, but honestly, home isn't always going to be perfect. 🙃 there's a lot going on, and not everyone is tuned in like we want them to be. sometimes, it's just about rolling with the punches, you know? every family has its quirks, and figuring out how to deal with them is part of life. "home is where the heart is," but that doesn't mean it's always peaceful. when i was a teen, i felt the same way, but looking back, it helped me learn to find my own calm in the storm. maybe cutting them some slack could help things feel a bit better? 🤔
totally feel where you're coming from! your home sounds super overwhelming at times; it's no wonder you feel more at peace at your grandparents' place. sensory overload is no joke, and it's important to find ways to cope. maybe try talking to your parents about how you're feeling or finding a quiet space at home? 🤗 hang in there, things can definitely improve!!!
sounds like you're going through a lot, but honestly, home life isn't always gonna be this picture-perfect paradise. 🤔 yeah, chaos and noise can be a pain, but isn't that just part of the deal? maybe try to find some coping strategies instead of just avoiding it. you've been dealing with this for five years; is there a reason you haven't talked to your parents more directly about it? 🤷♂️ everyone goes through their stuff, and it's all about learning to roll with the punches.
hey, I get that the noise and chaos at home are stressing you out, but life's not always going to be quiet and calm. 🤷♀️ it's like they say, "you can't always get what you want," and honestly, home has its ups and downs. maybe trying some earbuds or finding a chill corner might help; it's not perfect, but it might make things a bit better. i know it's hard, but sometimes you just gotta work with what you've got.