I think I'm starting to resent my sister
The story
My sister is 3 years younger than me, and she's basically getting everything she wants with basically no consequences. when I was younger than her age, I had to be self reliant because our parents were busy working as we had no home and had to stay in a relative's house- we all had to sleep in one room, and I didn't even have many personal belongings- I had to prioritise taking care of myself- ironing my uniform, making my own lunch and breakfast, straightening my own hair, and having to walk 40 minutes everyday to school when we no longer had a car- even when we did, I was often berated by my dad for being slow because I was late and he had to drop me off- but that was because I didn't have any food for school. This was when I was 12- I don't really think it's a big as it's important to be self reliant when you're older, but the thing is, my parent keep coddling my sister to the point where she doesn't want to do anything for herself for her own, honestly selfish, reasons. She doesn't do her own laundry, style her hair, make her own breakfast or lunch because she can't be bothered to- this was by her own admission. She's 15 turning 16. She also doesn't clean up after making a mess. She studies in the living room- which is fine, obviously- but this now means that the entire living room is a mess of papers- even when we clean up, we can't do anything about them because she'll literally get so angry and starts to get aggressive and messes up the room if she can't find anything - which is annoying since I'm the one who has to clean the living room. She can also be very judgemental and rude to me about my interests and has called me cringe if I'm interested in things she doesn't like. She just doesn't feel like a considerate person at all. Honestly, she's the main reason why I'm excited to move out for university because I feel like I'll be able to live my own life- like I won't have to sacrifice my self worth just for her. I'm also hoping that she'll learn to mature and calm down as sometimes her temperament scares our mum off too
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Hey there! I can totally relate to what you're going through; it's wild how different siblings can have such different experiences; 😅 I remember when I was younger, I also had to handle a boatload of stuff on my own because my folks were always swamped with work. It's like you had to grow up fast while your sister's getting this whole other deal. Honestly, it can be super frustrating when it feels like there's uneven treatment going on, but I guess that's just family dynamics sometimes. My younger cousin is sort of the same; dude never lifts a finger at home, and his folks are all chill about it.
I mean, it stings a bit when your people don’t seem to notice your struggles or hard work, but maybe in the future, your sister might get a wake-up call as she faces the real world. It’s cool that you're looking forward to university, though! I reckon it’ll be awesome for you to have your own space and find your groove without any clashing vibes. Plus, who knows, your sister might just surprise you one day and start stepping up. Keep your head up and keep doing you; things have a way of working themselves out eventually!
i believe your situation is quite relatable 🤔 sometimes family dynamics can be complex and challenging; the disparity in treatment between siblings is rather common I suppose. it sounds like you had to mature quickly which can shape resilience and independence skills for life while your sister appears to enjoy a more comfortable environment presently 😅 perhaps she will develop these skills in time too. change often comes with new experiences so her perspective might shift eventually keep focusing on your own journey and aspirations 😊