I’m mad at my sister
The story
this story is based around my sister and what she does/is doing now she’s on her period(she’s almost eighteen btw and im younger). So last night I had went into the bathroom to use the bathroom while she was taking a shower and she just asked me a simple request of getting her chocolate milk and Dr Pepper and her cheesecake and since I’m a good sister I do, then she sees that and says “oh hey, im on my period so im prob gonna be asking for a lot” and I say okay because she usually always asks me for small things like getting her a drink and im used to that even though it is frustrating. But tonight I finally had enough because she has been forcing me to do so much for her like making her food even though she’s already in the kitchen and getting her money and getting her a drink and I feel like she’s just using that to her advantage. And I even turned the sound off of our microwave to avoid waking up our mom and as soon as I go to sit in the living room she turns it back on to try and get me to go over there and start making her food again. And not to mention she’s trying to gaslight(idk the proper word for it) me into making her food “properly” even though im doing it how she normally does it. And she said “okay but you usually come to me so I can stir my food and then you put it in for another minute” and when I dump it out and make her a new batch of noodles she starts to complain that they “weren’t” cooked even though they were, they were just soggy because of the water. And she could not comprehend that fact. And she’s been using the excuse that she was tired and that it’s only fair because she’s working and im not(im not even old enough to get a good job yet with good hours like her job) and she has been making me do all of the tougher chores like the kitchen and bathroom(bc she has a “weak” stomach) and all she does is just sweep the floors and dust and she usually bounces out halfway done sweep and makes me do the rest along with vacuuming and mopping most of the time. And she says it’s only fair because she buys me food(which is only when our parents force her to which is barely) and like im thinking “yo wtf you don’t have to, you’re forcing yourself to” and I don’t think she gets the fact that i have enough money to buy my own food either. Because I can pay her or my mom to buy me food and they will just as long as I pay them for it. And a while ago she asked if I had money to buy me food and I said no and a little bit after that my dad gave me some money as allowance and when she found out she was all like “okay so then you were lying to me about having no money just for free food?” And I tried to explain to her that it was after that and she didn’t even believe me and made a big deal about it. And the funniest thing about all of this is the fact that she expects us to be all buddy-buddy after this
Should I confront her about all of this?
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man, that sounds super rough. your sister really seems to be milking the situation for all it's worth. periods can be tough, but it's not a free pass to make you a full-time servant. like, doing her chores because she claims to have a "weak" stomach, that's just calling in excuses. i've been there too where family expects you to pick up their slack just 'cause you're around. the microwave thing, turning the sound back on, trying to guilt trip you into doing everything her way, definitely not cool. it’s hard when they flip things and blame you for lying about money when it’s totally not the case. my brother used to do something similar, and after a while, I had to set some boundaries. it might be worth sitting her down and having a straight-up talk about how this is all piling up on you too. you're entitled to your own time and energy; it's not just about her needs all the time. 🥴
yo, I totally get where you're coming from. it sounds like your sister is really taking advantage of the situation and expecting way too much. it's one thing to help out a bit, especially when she's on her period, but it sounds like she's using it as an excuse to dump everything on you. like, being tired and working doesn't give her the right to boss you around and make you do all the heavy lifting. I've had similar situations with my older siblings, expecting me to cover for them just because I'm the youngest. it's frustrating when they act like they're doing you a favor by buying food when, in fact, they were told to do so. it can be tough being seen as the go-to for chores just because they decide they can't handle it. and yeah, siblings expecting everything to go back to normal immediately after they've been difficult is a real pain. it's important to find a balance and have some boundaries. maybe you could talk to her and explain how this is affecting you, in a way that helps her understand where you're coming from. things might get better when she hears you out.
honestly, sounds like a tough spot, but maybe cut her a little slack. being on your period can really be rough, even if it seems like she's overplaying it. might be her way of coping you know? my sister gets super irritable and needy too during that time, but it's temporary. seems like a communication thing, maybe just let her know you need a break and find a bit of balance. sometimes just telling them how you feel helps a lot. she's still your sister, and even if it feels like a lot now, it can get better. 💪
guess what, sounds like you might be overreacting a bit 🤷♂️. sure, she's asking for a lot, but you're kind of missing the point of being family. this constant complaining about small favors seems petty 😒. if she needs help during her period, that's not the end of the world. you're not a full-time servant, just her sibling. why make it such a big deal? she works and probably deals with her own crap, so maybe try cutting her some slack. you can say no when it’s getting too much, but don’t act like she’s making your life impossible. sometimes you just gotta balance your frustration and family duty, ya know? play nice, it won’t last forever.
seems like you might be getting worked up over this. she could be a bit demanding, but that's what family sometimes is. everyone goes through phases, and periods can be tough. this doesn't mean it's all okay, but maybe try looking at it differently. saying no sometimes is fine, but it isn't all her fault. helping out shouldn’t be such a major hassle. talk it out if it's too much, but maybe chill a bit. it's not the end of the world.
honestly, I totally see where you're coming from. it sounds like your sister is leveraging her situation a bit too much. while it's understandable that being on her period might make her feel unwell, using it to constantly delegate tasks to you seems unreasonable. when she says things like, "i'm just tired," or "it's fair because i'm working," it feels like she's justifying her behavior rather than acknowledging how it's impacting you. i've had similar experiences where family members just assume you'll pick up the slack, and it's not fair. you're clearly trying your best to help, but it seems she isn't considering your feelings in this dynamic. boundaries are essential in any relationship, especially with family, to keep things balanced. confronting her about how this makes you feel might be a good step to re-establish that balance.
honestly, i kind of think you might be overreacting a bit here. sure, she’s being a little demanding, but it’s not uncommon for siblings to ask for help, especially during tough times like her period. i've been in similar situations with my sister, and while it can get annoying, i think it's just part of being a family; she's probably not trying to make your life hard on purpose, maybe she’s just struggling to keep her balance and juggle everything. cutting her some slack might help improve things; in the end, communicating how you’re feeling could make a big difference for both of you.
sounds like you're in a tough spot, but I think you're making a bigger deal out of this than it needs to be. helping her out a bit more really isn't the end of the world. when she says things like, "i'm just tired," it's possible she's genuinely exhausted, not just trying to take advantage. my brother used to do similar stuff when he had a rough week at work, and while it sometimes felt like too much, I realized lending a hand didn't really hurt me; she's your sister, and small acts of kindness can go a long way. if you're feeling overwhelmed, maybe have a chat with her about setting some fairer boundaries. she'll appreciate you more for being there. 😊
honestly, seems like you're blowing things way out of proportion. sure, your sis is asking for a bit more help, but periods can be a rough time. when she says, "it's fair because i'm working," she's not really wrong; working can drain a person. my sibling used to do the same when they were super busy, and it got old fast, but it was never the end of the world. maybe back off a bit and chill; taking things so seriously won't help anyone. try cutting her some slack and talking it out instead of getting all heated. she'll appreciate the understanding, and things might get better. 🙄
i understand that you're feeling overwhelmed by your sister's demands, but perhaps there's a bit of an opportunity here to view this through a different lens. 🤔 it's quite possible that your sister is indeed going through a challenging time with her period and workload, and she's using the resources she can rely on—like you—for some extra help. when she claims, "i'm just tired," maybe it's more about seeking emotional support. i recall times when my sibling leaned on me like that; it felt burdensome, but we grew stronger. acknowledging her situation while reinforcing your own boundaries could lead to a more harmonious existence. communication could pave the way for mutual understanding; perhaps discussing how you both feel could open the door to compromise and balance!!!
honestly, i totally get where you're coming from and it sounds like you're dealing with quite a bit. your sister does seem to be asking for a lot, especially when she’s perfectly capable of doing some of these things herself. it's entirely reasonable to feel frustrated when you're expected to play the role of an unpaid assistant. i've been in similar situations, helping my siblings more than i probably should have, and it can get draining. maybe acknowledging your boundaries and gently letting her know that you need some space would help 👌; calmly discussing how to divide the workload more fairly might lead to a better balance for both of you. ultimately, it's all about finding that sweet spot where you can be supportive without feeling overwhelmed.
i get that you're feeling a bit overwhelmed, but maybe you're reading too much into this situation 🤔. periods can be a real mess, both physically and emotionally, and sometimes it makes it hard to function normally. when she says, "i'm tired" and makes requests, she might just be trying to cope as best as she can. my sister can also be demanding sometimes during her period, but i've found that it's usually temporary and eases up after a bit. maybe just setting some clear boundaries could help; have you tried talking to her about how this is affecting you??? would be great to find a middle ground where you can both feel supported without overburdening one another. why not see if there's a way to chat about it when things are calm? 😊
sounds like you're going through a bit of family drama, but maybe it's not as bad as it seems. sure, your sister is asking for a lot, but sometimes we need to cut each other a little slack. periods are no joke and can mess with energy levels and mood. my sister used to get really demanding for a few days too, and while it was a hassle, i learned it's just temporary; maybe consider talking to her about finding a fair balance. remember, it's just a phase, and you can get through it together. 😊
totally feel you here; it sounds like your sister is relying on you a bit too much! while it's understandable she might need some help, she should be pulling her weight too. what did she mean when she said, "i'm working, and you're not," like that's some excuse to dump everything on you??? maybe talking it out and setting some boundaries could really help. you deserve to have your needs considered too; have you thought about telling her how this is affecting you? hope things get better between you two! 😊