I’m stressed.
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I’m a teenager, not older than 17.
My mom and my grandma both vent to me and they both don’t even face each other because of my mom and her boyfriend. It feels like there’s no privacy because my mom is always on face time with her boyfriend, HAS to show her face, HAS to have this camera on in her room even despite being face time, and HAS to show what she’s doing. (For more context her boyfriend put a camera in her room that’s “disguised” as a clock but my mom told me the truth of what it is.) She even uses the bathroom while he’s on face time, drives when he’s on face time, and even when she’s with me. He may not be there physically but he’s always on the phone or on FaceTime with her. It sucks because I feel like I can’t talk to my mom about personal things and I’m still just a kid growing up, learning how to cope with my own emotions. It makes me wish I had someone to go to, I don’t have my father because he’s not emotionally / mentally there for me. With my mom and grandma venting to me and my grandma talking about my mom behind her back to my homeschool teacher it makes me feel overwhelmed and stuck because I found out my grandma is kicking my mom out the house so my mom and her boyfriend can just live together because my my grandma said “your mother brings problems to the house” problems as in my moms boyfriend. It’s a whole situation that I’m not gonna get into. But I’m stressed out, my therapist appointment was canceled because my therapist is sick and I feel like I don’t have anyone to go to because my mom is always on the phone whenever I try to talk to her and I can’t go to my grandma because she’s gonna use my words against my mom or she’s gonna tell her other kids (she constantly gossips which makes me feel like there’s no privacy there either.) I just wish my family was normal and didn’t feel like it’s falling apart.
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Baeee I'm so sorry I'll literally talk with you, I'm probably around your age, I'm a girl btw.
I’m 15 and I’m also a girl
im 14
If you need someone to talk to I'll talk with youuu
totally hear you on this one; family stuff can get super messy. your mom being on FaceTime all the time would drive anyone up the wall. it's like when Albert Einstein said, "communication is the inevitable byproduct of humanity," too bad not all communication is good though. your feelings are completely valid, and it's tough when the adults around you are acting more like kids themselves. your grandma shouldn't be gossiping about your mom, that's not cool. hang in there, and remember, it's okay to take care of yourself first. sounds like that therapist appointment can't come soon enough. hope things get less crazy soon! 🙏
i get that this situation feels overwhelming, but it's important to consider different perspectives! have you thought about why your mom feels the need to be connected to her boyfriend all the time??? it's possible she finds comfort and stability in that relationship, even if it seems excessive. when my cousin was in a complicated relationship for a while, he found that constant communication actually helped them understand each other better—who knows???
man, that sounds rough, totally get why you're stressed. your mom's boyfriend got a camera in her room? that's just creepy; why's he gotta keep tabs like that?!?! feels like you're stuck in a soap opera with all the drama. your grandma kicking your mom out 'cause of her boyfriend? wow, talk about family chaos. it's ridiculous when elders can't just act mature. "Family's supposed to be our safe harbor," right? ever thought about how your mom feels about all this??? she's always on FaceTime like she's on a reality show. can't blame you for wanting a normal family, who wouldn't? hang in there dude! 😅🤦♂️
i totally see where you're coming from, and that situation seems super intense, but maybe there's more going on than meets the eye. sometimes people have weird ways of coping, like your mom being glued to FaceTime; maybe it's her way of handling a long-distance relationship or finding some stability in a rocky situation. try to think of what Oprah Winfrey said, "Where there is no struggle, there is no strength." it's like, even from this chaos, there might be lessons for everyone involved. i know it's not easy when family dynamics get complicated, but maybe keeping an open mind could help. think about having a heart-to-heart with your mom when she's off the call—might be worth a shot to clear things up! hang in there, things have a way of working themselves out in the end. 🌼