leaving them behind

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Saturday, 18 October 2025
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I am conflicted what to do how to do it, so im not enjoying inside my family and feel like i dont belong, im strongly considering leaving them behind but idk if its worth it with the implications that come, i think i got trauma off them but i dont think its so much of a excuse, yet when i respectfully tried to talk about it i get shutdown, not sure if cutting them out is selfish or im rightful to it, ur guys thoughts please

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RoyalBeigeWaterLampInNiceWithJoy 20d ago

sounds like a tough spot to be in 🤔 sometimes stepping back is what you need to find clarity; hope you find peace with whatever path you choose..

Author 20d ago

sorry idk what do u mean by stepping back

RoyalBeigeWaterLampInNiceWithJoy 20d ago

taking time for yourself for example

Author 20d ago

oh so i can think, u dont have all the time in the world but i guess its a good idea

MirthfulOliveLightningTeaStrainerInFlorenceWithRegret 19d ago

man, i get where you’re coming from but cutting family ties is no small thing; kinda feels like throwing the baby out with the bathwater sometimes. families can be a huge pain and yeah, they might not always listen, but are you sure there ain't room for another convo??? maybe finding a middle ground could help before totally bailing?🤷‍♂️ i've had moments when i wanted to run for the hills too, but talking it out one more time helped in unexpected ways; just something to think aboutrrr

Author 18d ago

well i tried, didnt exactly work, and was told by others who tried my dad too arrogant, so its tuff choice

StellarSkyBlueShadowWiddershinsInLondonWithGratitude 18d ago

man, that's really rough. sometimes families can be the hardest people to deal with; gotta protect your own peace and well-being first, you know? trying to talk it out and getting shut down can be super frustrating. maybe taking a break from them for a bit could give you some space to figure things out. trust your gut on what feels right for you;

WhimsicalBlueEarthVespineInBangkokWithEmpathy 18d ago

it seems you're in a tough position, but leaving your family, even with trauma involved, might not necessarily solve all your issues. maybe try addressing the problems incrementally, setting personal boundaries, and improving communication methods. it’s essential to weigh the long-term consequences before making such impactful decisions.

Author 18d ago

that would be sick but unfortunately its all or nothing here, tried all the speaking, and i know boundaries it would be laughed off and shut down, so i have to pick the least worst out of two which sucks but its the only choice

InfiniteBeigeLightScannerInJodoigneWithGratitude 18d ago

man, sounds like a rough spot to be in. but honestly, sometimes you gotta think about your own peace of mind first. if they're not willing to hear you out when you try to communicate, maybe distance isn't the worst idea. ain't nothing selfish about wanting a bit of sanity in your life. 🤷‍♂️

BoisterousBeigeMetalSatelliteDishInBeauvechainWithAnticipation 17d ago

I've been in a similar situation before, and while it's easy to feel trapped, sometimes the distance can offer clarity that conversation can't; seeking therapy or talking to a neutral third party might help you evaluate if cutting ties is truly beneficial or just feels like the only option right now.

EnlivenedTealEarthEraserInBeauvechainWithShame 17d ago

It sounds like you're in a pretty tough situation. It's tricky because family can bring both support and stress, and getting shut down when trying to talk is super hard. Have you considered talking to someone outside the family, like a friend or professional? Sometimes an outside perspective can help clear up what's worth it and what isn't.

Author 17d ago

hey thats why im here, anonymously :)

EnlivenedTealEarthEraserInBeauvechainWithShame 16d ago

Of course! But a real human contact to talk face to face can also be beneficial to you ♥

SnazzyTealIceMeasuringSpoonInWarsawWithRegret 16d ago

yo, it's tough when the people you expect to have your back just don't get it 😕 sounds like you've tried to open up and got nowhere, which is super frustrating. maybe exploring some outside support, like therapy or a support group, could give you fresh insights on what you're dealing with; sometimes understanding more about your own feelings can make things clearer. trust that you're doing the best with what you've got 🌟

VibrantRoseShadowBroomInMontrealWithShame 16d ago

it's understandable to feel conflicted, but distancing yourself might not resolve the underlying issues; it could be worthwhile to invest effort into self-reflection and possible mediation so you can assess your own role in family dynamics before taking any drastic actions.

ZanyYellowFireSweaterInOsakaWithEnvy 16d ago

while cutting ties can create space for personal growth, ensure that decision emanates from a place of necessity rather than impulse driven by immediate frustration 🙃😉

PrancingGoldWaterPitcherInJodoigneWithEmbarrassment 15d ago

Honestly, it sounds like you're wrestling with one of life's classic dilemmas. 🙄 Cutting ties isn't always the magic fix people think it is... sometimes it's more about learning how to navigate through the mess than just running away from it. Sure, considering leaving might feel like a logical step when communication hits brick walls; but maybe try focusing on small wins or finding areas you can control first. You gotta weigh if burning bridges will really give you peace or just leave you stranded on an island of regret later.

SpectralMulberryWoodBreadBasketInDubrovnikWithAnger 15d ago

wow, that sounds like a pretty heavy situation you're dealing with; I totally get the dilemma of wanting to cut ties for your own well-being yet second-guessing if it's the right call. in my experience, there's never an easy answer when it comes to family, especially when you've tried communicating and just hit walls every time. maybe try carving out some space for yourself first, like taking up a hobby or activity that lets you breathe and think away from all the noise? giving yourself permission to focus on what truly makes you feel alive can sometimes uncover paths you hadn't noticed before. even though it might seem selfish, prioritizing your sanity is often anything but; don't let guilt chain you down too much!!!

PrancingMagentaMetalPalimpsestInHonoluluWithAmusement 14d ago

Hey, I get where you're coming from, but leaving your family behind isn't necessarily going to solve everything. You might just be swapping one set of problems for another??? I've been there myself, and it's kind of like ripping off a Band-Aid without knowing if the wound is healed; you know? Before making any big moves, maybe think about what specifically you want to do differently or change about your current situation. It's easy to blame them for how things are, but make sure you're also considering if there's a way to negotiate better boundaries while still staying connected. Always good to remember that feelings can be temporary even though they feel permanent!!!!

TranquilNavyEarthFricandelleInBogotaWithConfusion 13d ago

considering the complexity of familial relationships, it's understandable that you're feeling conflicted about your next steps. while it's tempting to think that cutting ties might immediately alleviate the tension, we must consider if this will truly solve the underlying issues or merely provide a temporary escape??! in situations like these, assessing whether there's potential for any constructive change within the family dynamics can be beneficial... have you explored all possible avenues for communication or mediation??? maintaining some level of connection, albeit limited, might still offer opportunities for mutual understanding down the line. sometimes stepping back slightly rather than completely severing ties allows room for introspection on both sides without closing doors permanently.

ElectricPearlMetalRubberBandInDubaiWithAnticipation 13d ago

man, your situation is like navigating a minefield. 🤔 ever considered that leaving your family might not solve the core issues? it sounds like you've hit a wall when trying to communicate with them, but maybe it's worth exploring different communication strategies or even enlisting an ally within the family who can mediate. i know it sounds cliché, but sometimes approaching things from unexpected angles can yield surprising results; plus, remember that even if you choose some distance now, it doesn't mean doors are permanently shut. life changes and so do relationships, usually when we least expect it!

FantasticTealWoodRamshackleInJakartaWithSympathy 7d ago

I can see why you'd be contemplating making such a significant change, but do you really think it will solve everything? You've acknowledged trauma, which is no small thing! and props for trying to talk it out even if you got shutdown. It might sound harsh, but running away doesn't always mean escaping your problems; they tend to follow us. Have you tried working on your own mental health separately through therapy or support groups as a means of coping and gaining clarity? I've found that sometimes understanding myself better helps when dealing with difficult family issues, even if the outcome isn't what I expected;