My aunt scares me because she's a narcissist
The story
[Translated from Spanish. Reminder: IIWIARS is English only]
I feel like I never want to go back to my aunt’s place again. That woman doesn’t accept me for who I am. She tries to erase me—erase how I really am—just to protect her own image. She’s done it before, and now she’s doing it again. She’s still fighting that same battle, and I can’t take it anymore. I just want her out of my life. Honestly, I wish I’d never even met her.
If she thinks that helping us gives her the right to meddle in our lives, she’s completely mistaken. That’s how I feel—invaded. Ever since I stayed with her, I’ve felt strange, emotionally wounded, and completely unmotivated. I’ve been fighting to not let myself get dragged down by whatever it is she left in me—this form of disguised violence, pretending to be innocent. It seems like she enjoys it, and that terrifies me. I don’t think she even knows what she’s saying—she just acts without thinking. She believes a smile is enough to fix everything.
This woman scares me. I simply don’t want to see her again. Nor her friend. They’re strange people. They want to change everything about you and frame it like it’s “for your own good”—but it goes as far as emotional abuse. What kind of mentality is that? Why did I have to witness this? And why, of all families, did this one have to be mine? Why couldn’t I have ended up in a different one, for God’s sake?
Why, of all people, was she the one available to care for me after surgery? The moment I walked into her house, with my bags in hand, I felt like I was walking straight into hell. These people are experts at shutting you down when you try to speak about what’s hurting you. When I tried to explain this to my psychiatrist, I felt like she looked at me like I was crazy. Honestly, I’m afraid my aunt will try to set me up—make me explain what hurts me just to twist it around and blame it on my traumas or mental health, like I’m the problem.
I feel helpless dealing with the aftermath of these people. No one around me is supporting me. I feel absolutely awful.
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i’m sorry, but i must respectfully disagree with your perspective. in family dynamics, especially post-surgery recovery, psychological frameworks suggest that tough love, though not always appreciated, can sometimes yield positive outcomes. your aunt’s actions, described as “emotional abuse,” might be misinterpreted attempts at caregiving. the phrase, “for your own good,” implies a protective intention. family support, albeit imperfect, is critical after major life events, as indicated by numerous studies on familial relations. communication methods might seem harsh, but often, external viewpoints provide essential reality checks. perhaps re-evaluating the situation with your psychiatrist could offer clarity. misunderstanding intentions can exacerbate stress, an established factor in familial psychotherapy. wishing you peace and understanding in resolving these emotions. 😊