For context, bird refers to women who continuously chase and allow themselves to be mistreated by men and cater to their feelings.

My dad was abusive for years. Physically, emotionally, and sexually. And my mom and him had a rough relationship as well. But no matter how much my dad mistreated us, she stood by him no matter what. It’s infuriating.

I wanted to go to a private school for college because of the awesome engineering program. I had a lot of scholarships, money from the state, and a huge 100k scholarship from the school itself. The school is expensive but it seemed worth it. However, a part of me that held back was the part that knew i would still need my parents help, aka using their veterans status to help me get scholarships and other money. I was very hesitant, and I told my mom and the family counselor about that and they told me “oh no no just think of it as the government giving you money”.

Years later, I get a scholarship to help pay for housing, and my mom approaches me and says stuff like how I should be grateful that I’m in the financial situation that I’m in because it’s all because of my dad. Mind you, she makes double the amount he makes.

She is so predictable. Just a stupid fucking bird. No amount of money undos what he’s done to me. He could pay for my next house and car and I wouldn’t take it. I wish I never went to the university. I wish I stuck to my intuition and went someplace else, so I wouldn’t have to credit him. I just want to drop out and go somewhere else.

I hate them so much. And no one here is going to tell me that I should be gracious. That man and his family have traumatized me and damaged me. His aunt beat me until my eyes were bleeding, damaging my eyes to this day. He would beat me, gaslight me, and molest me for 16 years. There is nothing he can do that would make me accept any sort of apology, financially included. I just don’t want o be indebted to him and I can’t cut contact. I don’t want to lose family but who knows at this point. I don’t know what to do at this point. If anyone has any advice or suggestions, I’d really appreciate it.

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