My parent won't respect me.
The story
My parent won't respect me, my privacy, or my boundaries. It's not just me either, they do it with my sibling as well, crossing visible lines, testing us in ways that a parent should never do. Today, I told my parent I was changing and would have my door locked. Just minutes after I told them that, I heard them walk away from my door, then come back and unlock my door. Luckily I wasn't changing, but that's a clear boundary they crossed and privacy violation. This happened in the morning and then at night we were having another argument and then they went searching my room for no reason. I've been battling manic depression for a while and it can get difficult to maintain an organized room. They know this and have repeatedly used my 'messy' room as an excuse to punish me. They are constantly fat-shaming and food-shaming me everytime I eat, I could have eaten only one small thing and when I go to get another, they start yelling at me to stop and that i've already had one and that's enough. I tend to talk to myself a lot because at home I have no one else to talk to, they're constantly calling me crazy for talking to myself and venting to the people I've made up in my head. They ask why I don't find comfort in them or why I don't tell them things that's going on, but everytime I try to they turn it into a lecture or make it about themselves. Am I wrong for keeping my distance?
Am I wrong for keeping my distance?
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It sounds like you're in a really tough spot, and it's totally valid to want your boundaries respected, especially when it comes to your privacy and personal space. It's not too much to ask for parents to understand the importance of these boundaries as you grow up. I can see how this constant invasion and misunderstanding would make anyone feel distant. Have you considered expressing how all these actions are affecting you emotionally? It might help bring some awareness, but I know that's easier said than done!
Wow, that sounds incredibly frustrating 😟. It's hard to imagine why some parents think invading privacy is okay. You definitely deserve a space where you feel safe and respected. It seems like your parents are really controlling and that's not fair to you or your sibling. Maybe finding a trustworthy adult outside the family to talk to could help you navigate these tough situations? Stay strong 💪!
Damn, that sucks; no one deserves to be disrespected like that in their own home. It's kinda wild how some parents think they can just bulldoze over personal boundaries and still expect you to open up to them. I've been there too, where trying to explain anything turns into a lecture or just spirals back onto them—total nightmare. Maybe trying to carve out a small part of your day just for yourself could help; do something you actually enjoy without them breathing down your neck? How do they react when you call out their behavior directly?
man, that sounds super frustrating and honestly, you're not wrong for keeping your distance. i totally get it—sometimes folks just don't understand boundaries even when you lay them out clearly. it's crazy how no matter what you try to do, it seems they find a way to twist things around on you. i remember when my parents would dismiss my feelings too, and it made me feel like I was stuck in a loop of never being heard. this whole food-shaming thing is so unnecessary! everybody deserves to eat without guilt or judgment—it's your body, your choice. keep standing firm on what's important to you; hopefully someday they'll understand where you're coming from. 💔